Blargh Rant

[the_magical_boy]

I'm getting more and more irritated living at home. Believe me, if I had the money and wasn't in college, I'd move. Last night, I told her I woulnd't be able to figure out why she can't put music on her iPod until Saturday morning with everything going on this week. Homework. Papers. Rainbow Alliance events. She comes in tonight, looks at me and

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[lorele]

Tell her to get her own life to live. Your life isn't good enough for her, vicariously. Obviously so, because she's invested in others' lives.

Have you tried getting her outside into nature, or in rooms with *gasp* people in them?

You're not holier than thou -- it could be seen as such if she thinks "this is only a 5-minute thing for you, maybe 10-15, and you can't spare those few minutes, and you're home anyways, you have all the time in the world..." and doesn't speak her true thoughts.

If you're a Sagittarius, you're perceiving the situation fairly clearly. Your arrow isn't exactly aimed in the right direction, but who ever said that the Arrow of Time had to fly in a perfectly straight line path? Forward is whatever direction you're moving right now.

[jaded_jacqui]

I hate to say it, but I totally understand where she's coming from. Do not approve, but understand. My mom is very similar.

Your mom has always had to be in control, she's always had to do everything for you guys. She was, essentially, mom and dad, provider and caretaker. She controlled everything. She was used to having to control everything. But now you're growing up, finding your own way. Her control is slipping, but it's what she knows so she's trying to hang onto it. It's necessary, but you're pulling her security right out from under her. She's not going to take it well.

It takes time, it takes patience, it takes strong words. At least, this is my take on it. But so far, in most cases, I haven't been wrong.