Hiya, hon! I think that people are less likely to answer "thoughtful" posts because it seems invasive; I know that I worry about saying the wrong thing, about coming off glib when I mean to be sincere.
Hi, Tham! I'm happy to hear that you are doing well!
In other words, I kept thinking, "Oh, I should leave fandom because !@#$!@#$!@," when the reality is I just need to pick out the raisins.
*nodnod*
A year or so ago I was so irritated with certain aspects of fandom that I considered leaving, but I figured out that the things I loved about fandom trumped the things I didn't like. Instead of leaving, I tweaked my f-list and communities and made some big decisions about how I wanted to interact within fandom. I find that my fannish life is much easier, and I'm enjoying it more.
Ass, you will never be small yet I love your cushioning, Monroesque softness. Thighs, you have never been nor will you ever be thin, yet you are squeeze-worthy and bountifully fabulous!
Vi, my sweet, you speak words straight from my brain. Because that's exactly how I've been feeling, that desire to leave when it's really a matter of tweaking. I tend always to go for the big gestures when sometimes small ones are smarter. My personal life lesson #144234122.
And yay for laughter! My ass and thighs are jiggling with shared amusement.
it's a pleasure to see your words on my screen, always.
>testing the waters to ensure I'm not stepping in shit and calling it a pilgrimage.
oh! not sure how that works for you, but i can relate to the image, having done that in my own ways. now, if i could only lose the 60 lbs. i need to lose, that'd be a hell of a pilgrimage, and i'd still be pleasantly fleshy.
i hope you can do the raisin-chucking thing, so the good parts of fandom can continue to give you joy.
For my shit-walking pilgrimage: I have this habit of trying to make everything good, to like everything, and end up furious with the thing for not accommodating my desires. I just need to face reality, accept that some things will never make me happy, and kick 'em from the stoop.
On losing weight: that's such a tricky thing, isn't it? When I started, I told no one because I didn't want people watching, waiting, and judging, while avoiding the scales like mad. I went cold-turkey on my favorite fat-laden foods, too, and that helped. Whatever you do, good luck with it! You're fabulous any way you are, chica. *hugs*
oh yes, i do that too, then, only it's with people: i try to like everyone, finally realize i can't, and end up all tied in knots. it's hurt me over and over all my life.
thanks a bunch! at 54, i can just mumble "menopause, lower metabolism" and get away with some of the pudge. *g* congrats to you on your weight loss!
Yes! I've given up trying to like everyone; fuck that shit, man! It only leads to internal knotting, and at 40-minus-two-and-a-half weeks, I'm glad that I finally grabbed a clue. And yay pudge! Personally, I adore voluptuous women!
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In other words, I kept thinking, "Oh, I should leave fandom because !@#$!@#$!@," when the reality is I just need to pick out the raisins.
*nodnod*
A year or so ago I was so irritated with certain aspects of fandom that I considered leaving, but I figured out that the things I loved about fandom trumped the things I didn't like. Instead of leaving, I tweaked my f-list and communities and made some big decisions about how I wanted to interact within fandom. I find that my fannish life is much easier, and I'm enjoying it more.
Ass, you will never be small yet I love your cushioning, Monroesque softness. Thighs, you have never been nor will you ever be thin, yet you are squeeze-worthy and bountifully fabulous!
Oh, hon, you make me laugh.
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And yay for laughter! My ass and thighs are jiggling with shared amusement.
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You are fabulous and this made me smile. :D
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>testing the waters to ensure I'm not stepping in shit and calling it a pilgrimage.
oh! not sure how that works for you, but i can relate to the image, having done that in my own ways. now, if i could only lose the 60 lbs. i need to lose, that'd be a hell of a pilgrimage, and i'd still be pleasantly fleshy.
i hope you can do the raisin-chucking thing, so the good parts of fandom can continue to give you joy.
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On losing weight: that's such a tricky thing, isn't it? When I started, I told no one because I didn't want people watching, waiting, and judging, while avoiding the scales like mad. I went cold-turkey on my favorite fat-laden foods, too, and that helped. Whatever you do, good luck with it! You're fabulous any way you are, chica. *hugs*
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thanks a bunch! at 54, i can just mumble "menopause, lower metabolism" and get away with some of the pudge. *g* congrats to you on your weight loss!
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