it's a pleasure to see your words on my screen, always.
>testing the waters to ensure I'm not stepping in shit and calling it a pilgrimage.
oh! not sure how that works for you, but i can relate to the image, having done that in my own ways. now, if i could only lose the 60 lbs. i need to lose, that'd be a hell of a pilgrimage, and i'd still be pleasantly fleshy.
i hope you can do the raisin-chucking thing, so the good parts of fandom can continue to give you joy.
For my shit-walking pilgrimage: I have this habit of trying to make everything good, to like everything, and end up furious with the thing for not accommodating my desires. I just need to face reality, accept that some things will never make me happy, and kick 'em from the stoop.
On losing weight: that's such a tricky thing, isn't it? When I started, I told no one because I didn't want people watching, waiting, and judging, while avoiding the scales like mad. I went cold-turkey on my favorite fat-laden foods, too, and that helped. Whatever you do, good luck with it! You're fabulous any way you are, chica. *hugs*
oh yes, i do that too, then, only it's with people: i try to like everyone, finally realize i can't, and end up all tied in knots. it's hurt me over and over all my life.
thanks a bunch! at 54, i can just mumble "menopause, lower metabolism" and get away with some of the pudge. *g* congrats to you on your weight loss!
Yes! I've given up trying to like everyone; fuck that shit, man! It only leads to internal knotting, and at 40-minus-two-and-a-half weeks, I'm glad that I finally grabbed a clue. And yay pudge! Personally, I adore voluptuous women!
*nodsnods* Not only can you not actually like everyone, think how exhausted you'd be if you did. I think a lot of folks miss seeing the fact that just because you don't like someone doesn't mean you dislike them or think there's anything wrong with them. There are many perfectly lovely people who I don't much like, not because there's anything not to like about them but because we just don't connect. There's nothing there for me to like about them in particular, and vice versa. I have a friend who's determined to remain friends with everyone she's ever been friends with, even after she stops actually having anything in common with them or enjoying their converstations or feeling nurtured by the friendship. It strikes me as a huge emotional energy-suck. Me, I hope that not everyone I meet likes me -- I don't have the energy to be friends with everyone, and I can't imagine they do either. Embrace the not-liking-everyone! :D
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I think that we often try to like everyone--those of us who do--because we want everyone to like us in turn, when the truth is that, just as we can't like everyone, not everyone can like us. Yeah, the human psyche is one twisty knot of madness. Heh. I like your phrase "huge emotional suck," because yes. That's just what it is, and stupid besides.
As for your final paragraph, I so, so, so wasn't looking for a response to that question, but it was very nice to see. Thanks!
i have a hard, hard time accepting it that i cannot make everyone like me. now, why in the world do i think they should? uh...... i dunno. twisty knot of madness? i cop to that!
i forgot to answer your question. now that i see that zillah975 remembered to, i'll just say that i think you're T-rif! i'd read your journal even if you weren't so nice to me. :)
>testing the waters to ensure I'm not stepping in shit and calling it a pilgrimage.
oh! not sure how that works for you, but i can relate to the image, having done that in my own ways. now, if i could only lose the 60 lbs. i need to lose, that'd be a hell of a pilgrimage, and i'd still be pleasantly fleshy.
i hope you can do the raisin-chucking thing, so the good parts of fandom can continue to give you joy.
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On losing weight: that's such a tricky thing, isn't it? When I started, I told no one because I didn't want people watching, waiting, and judging, while avoiding the scales like mad. I went cold-turkey on my favorite fat-laden foods, too, and that helped. Whatever you do, good luck with it! You're fabulous any way you are, chica. *hugs*
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thanks a bunch! at 54, i can just mumble "menopause, lower metabolism" and get away with some of the pudge. *g* congrats to you on your weight loss!
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As for your final paragraph, I so, so, so wasn't looking for a response to that question, but it was very nice to see. Thanks!
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i forgot to answer your question. now that i see that zillah975 remembered to, i'll just say that i think you're T-rif! i'd read your journal even if you weren't so nice to me. :)
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