*nodsnods* Not only can you not actually like everyone, think how exhausted you'd be if you did. I think a lot of folks miss seeing the fact that just because you don't like someone doesn't mean you dislike them or think there's anything wrong with them. There are many perfectly lovely people who I don't much like, not because there's anything not to like about them but because we just don't connect. There's nothing there for me to like about them in particular, and vice versa. I have a friend who's determined to remain friends with everyone she's ever been friends with, even after she stops actually having anything in common with them or enjoying their converstations or feeling nurtured by the friendship. It strikes me as a huge emotional energy-suck. Me, I hope that not everyone I meet likes me -- I don't have the energy to be friends with everyone, and I can't imagine they do either. Embrace the not-liking-everyone! :D
And as an aside, on the topic of "Why do some people like me?" I like Thamiris for all kinds of reasons, like the way she uses language and the thoughtyness of her posts and the gorgeous sensuality and humour she can reveal in even the most mundane things. I'm a sucker for someone who's good with words.
I think that we often try to like everyone--those of us who do--because we want everyone to like us in turn, when the truth is that, just as we can't like everyone, not everyone can like us. Yeah, the human psyche is one twisty knot of madness. Heh. I like your phrase "huge emotional suck," because yes. That's just what it is, and stupid besides.
As for your final paragraph, I so, so, so wasn't looking for a response to that question, but it was very nice to see. Thanks!
i have a hard, hard time accepting it that i cannot make everyone like me. now, why in the world do i think they should? uh...... i dunno. twisty knot of madness? i cop to that!
i forgot to answer your question. now that i see that zillah975 remembered to, i'll just say that i think you're T-rif! i'd read your journal even if you weren't so nice to me. :)
And as an aside, on the topic of "Why do some people like me?" I like Thamiris for all kinds of reasons, like the way she uses language and the thoughtyness of her posts and the gorgeous sensuality and humour she can reveal in even the most mundane things. I'm a sucker for someone who's good with words.
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As for your final paragraph, I so, so, so wasn't looking for a response to that question, but it was very nice to see. Thanks!
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i forgot to answer your question. now that i see that zillah975 remembered to, i'll just say that i think you're T-rif! i'd read your journal even if you weren't so nice to me. :)
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