I don;t think it's your look. Vixen tells me that I'm a bit like her (and I'm guessing that you are similar too) in that we pass fine, and then we open our mouths. But that's a complete and utter guess. You look awesome.
Yeah I know. But I seriously flutate between feeling that I do pass at a glance (which I'm happy with preT and with only a bit of a rubbish binder) and feeling like I'll never look like anything but a butch woman. I am hating this stage of transition.
Gods, me too. In good news, if you feel that way now you'll probably be passing 100% at a month or two on T. Unlike some of us. :p
And I know you're male, so your picture probably won't bother me the same way it bothers you. You don't have to post it to the world, you know. I'm just curious what you look like. A face to go with the... Wait, I don't know your name, either. Lol! Have you picked one yet?
I like the second pic a whole lot, it looks like you just saw your friend in a coffeeshop and are about to say OMG HI!
Be patient with strangers, and don't try to guess what is going on with their perceptions. It'll just drive you nuts.
That said, relax your shoulders and back (don't try to hold yourself a certain way), and don't smile unless you want to. I think physical tension and trying to look pleasant in the face is a learned behavior that is sort of gender related for me at least.
Thanks, I think that's my favourite one, too. I try not to obsess about how I'm being perceived by strangers; it does absolutely make me crazy. But it's hard. And thanks for the posture and expression reminders - I try to remind myself of that all the bloody time, which usually lasts me all of 5 minutes. :p Unfortunately, that behaviour seems to be one I learnt very, very well. :p (It's also hard to do right when trying to take pictures of oneself in a very small bathroom, apparently.)
Sorry to say that some of it might be that you look happy. :)
If I had to ponder other factors, I wonder if the glasses are throwing people off. But I don't know the setting where you are out & about, so I cannot guess where they fall in the gendered-accessory spectrum.
Unfortunately, you may be right. :) I've found that smiling up instead of out helps make it look a bit less feminine, but, sadly, looking happy and being nice and/or polite seem to be very "female" traits in our society, unless there are obvious physical markers to the contrary.
I'm hoping to replace the glasses soon with a man's style frame, but I wanted to wait until 1) we had the money and 2) I was less overtly female-looking than I was prior. I think I'm in an okay place re. #2, but #1 is proving problematic. :p
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And I know you're male, so your picture probably won't bother me the same way it bothers you. You don't have to post it to the world, you know. I'm just curious what you look like. A face to go with the... Wait, I don't know your name, either. Lol! Have you picked one yet?
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Be patient with strangers, and don't try to guess what is going on with their perceptions. It'll just drive you nuts.
That said, relax your shoulders and back (don't try to hold yourself a certain way), and don't smile unless you want to. I think physical tension and trying to look pleasant in the face is a learned behavior that is sort of gender related for me at least.
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If I had to ponder other factors, I wonder if the glasses are throwing people off. But I don't know the setting where you are out & about, so I cannot guess where they fall in the gendered-accessory spectrum.
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I'm hoping to replace the glasses soon with a man's style frame, but I wanted to wait until 1) we had the money and 2) I was less overtly female-looking than I was prior. I think I'm in an okay place re. #2, but #1 is proving problematic. :p
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