Your psychiatrist sounds really fucked up, in my opinion, and irresponsible. What a jerk! It sounds like they understand nothing when it comes to trans ppl, if this is what they said to you.
No one should claim to know how you or your girlfriend identify. Besides, your gender identity is completely seperate from your sexual orientation anyway, one is nothing to do with the other.
As for saying that you feel male but you are female, that's just plain ridiculous. You might be female-bodied, but you can still identify as male. People might not see the male you are just yet, but once you start physically transitioning (if that's what you want) then that should all change and no one will see you as anything other than male.
If I were you, I'd forget everything she said there. It sounds like she doesn't really know the first thing about Transfolk and is getting gender identity, presentation and sexual orientation all completely mixed up.
It is hard, but at the end of the day, you know who you are and they don't. Some of the people at CX are a bit... trying but unfortunately it's all we have if going private isn't an option. As much as I hated it, when I saw Dr Green, I purposely dressed and presented in such a way to make sure that I came across better. CX have issues with people who don't fit into their neat little boxes, sometimes you just have to know how to play the system to get the end result you want.
Yeah, I guess I'll compromise if it means they wont reject me...I just hate the idea of going out in something I don't like...I'm not wearing a suit and tie if you paid me! Btw, I'm jewish and queer too (have a girlfriend but I'm bi)
Don't worry too much about what your psychiatrist or GP say. Their contact with gender dysphoric people will have been minimal, so they're speculating. When you get to CHX, be honest with them about the depression, anxiety, abuse history, etc. They'll be well used to people presenting having become depressed/anxious BECAUSE their gender doesn't match their body, so they won't make the same assumptions. Similarly, now Richard Green has retired, they're unlikely to start arguing with you about what sex you "ARE".
The referral's been made. Sit back and prepare for your first CHX appointment. Ignore all else; it's all now out of the hands of your GP or your shrink. Whoever you see at the Claybrook will know a lot more about the subject than them, will have seen many more individuals in your position, and won't labour the same cliches.
I'm really worried my past will delay or even prevent my transitioning. In America I hear of people transitioning who have some major issues and some even saying they never saw a psychiatrist because 'why should they?'...and I must admit I'm jealous. I KNOW things with my family haven't influenced my decision because I've thought about it constantly for the past 7 years...it's just now I've got to 'prove' myself and I'm sick of proving myself to people.
I think my sexual idenitity is pretty sound...although I got questioned by my GP and psychiatrist because I wear eyeliner and had a trendy pink t-shirt on ...I tried explaining to them it was a sub-culture/fashion thing but I don't think they bought it :/ I don't want to have to go to my appointment at CX in...i dunno...army trousers and a muscle shirt! It's just not my style!
Yeah, they've got to understand a short back and sides in natural colour isn't the only hairstyle a guy can have. Atm, I have a fringe and black sorta emo-ish hair but I really want some purple or pink streaks in it but I'm afraid people will make judgements about my gender because of it. It's sad we still live in an age where people consider blue is for boys and pink for girls :/ ...although, saying that, blue is my favourite colour and I used to abhor pink until I was comfotable with my gender identity and sexuality.
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As for saying that you feel male but you are female, that's just plain ridiculous. You might be female-bodied, but you can still identify as male. People might not see the male you are just yet, but once you start physically transitioning (if that's what you want) then that should all change and no one will see you as anything other than male.
If I were you, I'd forget everything she said there. It sounds like she doesn't really know the first thing about Transfolk and is getting gender identity, presentation and sexual orientation all completely mixed up.
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Btw, I'm jewish and queer too (have a girlfriend but I'm bi)
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Psychiatrist.. just idiots.
Don't take it to heart.
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The referral's been made. Sit back and prepare for your first CHX appointment. Ignore all else; it's all now out of the hands of your GP or your shrink. Whoever you see at the Claybrook will know a lot more about the subject than them, will have seen many more individuals in your position, and won't labour the same cliches.
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I KNOW things with my family haven't influenced my decision because I've thought about it constantly for the past 7 years...it's just now I've got to 'prove' myself and I'm sick of proving myself to people.
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I don't want to have to go to my appointment at CX in...i dunno...army trousers and a muscle shirt! It's just not my style!
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