Comments | tericol: How can I try to explain, when I do he turns away again

tericol

How can I try to explain, when I do he turns away again

Jul 01, 2010 10:53

Being without Kegel, my car for those of you not in the know, is not the worst thing in the world. I've caught rides with friends,had friends loan me their cars, hiked to the bus stop, ridden the bus and been chauffeured by my son. For this being the first car accident that I personally caused, things could have been so much worse. I am grateful ( Read more... )

guilt, beginnings, family, braindump, kegel, daddy, optimism maybe

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mseuphrates July 1 2010, 15:38:19 UTC

You're doing the right thing. By the time my dad finally admitted he needed the help and went into assisted living, he was so frail he couldn't participate in most of the activities and opportunities they offered - a lot of which would have been right up his alley just a few years earlier.

*hugs* I know how hard it is sweetie. Hang in there.

tericol July 1 2010, 20:35:42 UTC

I'm doing alright. I'm more worried about Dad's state of mind and him feeling like I'm abandoning him. He's not one to talk about his feelings or anything, for that matter, so I'm trying to make sure I put myself in his shoes as I make these decisions.

Come next week I'll either have a mini emotional breakdown, a celebration or both. LOL

scarey but positive changes cynthia_french July 1 2010, 15:44:06 UTC

It sounds like you will indeed have more of your life back. And yes, it sounds like it will definitely be a more socially positive move for your father. I'm wishing all the best for you!

Re: scarey but positive changes tericol July 1 2010, 20:36:45 UTC

Thanks Cynthia! I'm wishing for the exact same thing. I keep shaking my head that it's actually happening.

jazzykym July 1 2010, 20:45:23 UTC

I surely do love you.

tericol July 2 2010, 12:18:11 UTC

Back at you Kym. Thanks for last night. It was exactly what I needed!

anonymous July 2 2010, 00:58:12 UTC

I've been thinking about this a lot Teri. I really think it is a matter of perspective. I don't see it as you abandoning your father at all. I really see it as a blessing that he has had the gift of your presence all these years, caring for him. There are not many parents & children that spend that kind of quality time with each other as adults. He will now be returning to a life that is more independent than that of his grown daughter's, but certainly not absent of it.

I am very thankful for this.

You can tend now to the garden that is Teri!

I send you big love!!

tericol July 2 2010, 12:18:44 UTC

I appreciate this reply, but would like to know who it's from.

EDIT - Nevermind, I'm pretty sure that was you sis. I know I'm not abandoning him, it's just this part of me that says a good daughter would take care of her Dad no matter what. I'm trying to shake off that voice. ;-)

lorimerritt July 3 2010, 18:40:44 UTC

I wasn't sure if my above reply had posted (it was being janky) ~ apparently it did. I hope you know I come from a place of love for you when I write these words, sis. I woke up today feeling torn on this issue and understood a little better how it must be for you.
I just respect the lengths you will go to for the ones you love ~ that you back up your love with your whole life.