life decisions

[tempisfugit]

Huge news:  I'm quitting my horrible, soul-sucking job.  My boss came in to yell at me the other morning, and it was just the final straw (I've been really unhappy there for months now).  I do not get compensated anywhere near enough to deal with her crap, I'm in an industry that only marginally interests me, and I'm living in a place that I don't

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[ikel89]

Congratulations on making that turn! You seemed really enthusiastic about coming back to arts history (and pretty determined too!), and I'm glad the day has come for you:)

Everything will work out just fine, because you do this for yourself and because you want to, and you have this amazing determination to make it work. Coming back to place you love to do things you adore = good recipe, no? Meanwhile, we'll be cheering for you:)

[tempisfugit]

you are so amazingly sweet, thank you!! My terror and enthusiasm are waging an epic battle about this right now - one minute I'm completely scared, the next I can't wait.

[ikel89]

You have all our Targ broship, banners and all, behind you in this battle so COME FORTH and make some fantastic changes:D

[wintergreen126]

I did something like this once before (moved across the ocean without a job for a long-term boyfriend) that crashed and burned in a big way.

I think the difference here is that you're doing this entirely for you. Plus you have your family's support, which is important when making big changes

[tempisfugit]

I think you make an excellent point - this is the first thing I've really done that's completely and wholly about myself, not family or boyfriends or anyone else, and that's partially what scares me (if I fail, then it's my fault, ya know?). And you're right, this is the best time to do this, when I'm not tied down by other commitments.

We'll see, I'm most nervous about making friends in a new city. Exploring/being social has never been my forte...

[hamsterwoman]

No words of wisdom, but congratulations on being rid of the soul-sucking job and good luck with the move! Since you know and love the place you're moving to, and are accelerating events you've already planned for, I'm sure this will work out very well! Good luck!

[tempisfugit]

thank you! I think the real challenge now will be forcing myself to be social in a place where I know absolutely no one, so we'll see!

[mauvais_pli]

I cannot but support you in your decision, because all parts of it sound right: you're leaving what you hate, you're got what to build on, a plan of action, and a destination that excites you. (Besides, not going to lie, they day I up and leave for Scotland would be the day my heart will burst with joy.)

I think if you keep covering your bases and keeping your goal in mind, you're good. Since the decision is largely to move away from things that don't benefit you, I say, don't slip, keep making decisions that you like. That's not very wise, but I wish you the very best with the move & the job-hunting!

[tempisfugit]

if you support me, oh wise and fearless targ mod, then I must be doing the right thing!

you make a good point though - everything adds up, so as long as I keep the end goal in mind, and deal with each detail as they arise, I should be okay, right?

(seriously, though, the first time I visited Scotland it was like getting shot by Cupid's arrow... I was hooked - you'll have to visit!)

[mauvais_pli]

Yep, that's what I think. We'll be allright, pet cactus (c) << Twilight reference, don't kill me!

I don't think you need to worry about being social. Since you have contacts in Scotland you say, you will always be able to munch on their social circle and/or coworkers, and once you start at your PhD, there's always mixers and happy hours and whatnot. You can find a few westerosorting folks in Scotland, and even more in UK at large, depending on what you end up doing this year. (I don't know if there ever were WS reunions in Europe, but there's a first for everything!)

(Same. I have not gone beyond the Glasgow-Sterling-Edinburgh line and I want to go Norrrth, but it was a revelation all the same. The town I stayed in had a golf course in the public park. What else is there to wish for, idk. I SHALL HOLD YOU TO YOUR WORD)

[sephystabbity]

I don't know if what I'm going to say is helpful but I loved all the craziest decisions I made in my life even when they ended in disaster from someone else's pov. I'm positive you'll get something good out of this.

Congratulations, and good luck out there. Don't go around turning people in popsicles and you'll be fine ;)

[tempisfugit]

aw, that is very helpful and VERY good to hear sephy! I think one of my big worries is what people will say/think about what I'm doing - but you're right, it's more about how I feel about it than what others think.

(and I think in Scotland the tables will turn and I'LL be the one turned into a popsicle.)