Comments | teine: Biphobia (part 1)

teine

Biphobia (part 1)

Oct 22, 2004 11:24

Just before pshrew visited, I had a phone call that brought lots of things I'd been meaning to write about for a while, bursting up to the surface of my mind. I couldn't not write it any more.. I made notes, I determined to post last weekend.. And of course, the flow of events overtook me, and it's taken till now to write it. But now, with a cooler mind ( Read more... )

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anonamouse October 22 2004, 16:48:03 UTC

no, i think you're completely right. because, after all, the opposite gender is difficult to compete with. a person who's bi can easily "pass" in a heterosexual relationship, but in a homosexual relationship, you've got an extra set of problems ( ... )

prettyname October 23 2004, 16:13:47 UTC

*hugs* I'm sorry this happened to you..x

His reasoning behind it could have been one of many things and not necessarily simply because you are bi, but because of the possible risks of hurt that could leave him with. He sounds like he has been hurt before and badly enough for him to not want to risk experiencing that kind of hurt again. Maybe he's had that 'excuse' used on him before, too, if someone wanted to end things but didn't want to say the real reason for example, they might have thought that saying they were leaving for a woman might leave him feeling like none of it was his fault for example, y'know? Who knows? Maybe he see's someone saying they're bi as an almost instant rejection because that's what he's ultimately expecting from the start.

I feel for him, but I'm more concerned that you're alright and not letting it get to you..x

love and warm,
tracie..x

lownote October 25 2004, 08:44:10 UTC

I don't have much to add to what has been said already - its sad that he feels like that. *hugs*

dr_jen October 25 2004, 12:53:15 UTC

Not something I know much about from the male perspective but thinking about it in our LGBT group we've many more girls than boys who define as bisexual. From the other side of things I had a recent conversation with a sexual health worker who was talking about the amount of men using their services who define as straight but have sex with men. There seems to be plenty of pressure coming from different directions against men defining themselves in this way ( ... )

Flabbergasted! dobhran January 4 2005, 20:36:34 UTC

That is hysterically laughable - to go through all that dance just to be dropped for being bi. Painfully Ironic indeed! Sorry it happened!