Biphobia (part 1)

[teine]

Just before pshrew visited, I had a phone call that brought lots of things I'd been meaning to write about for a while, bursting up to the surface of my mind. I couldn't not write it any more.. I made notes, I determined to post last weekend.. And of course, the flow of events overtook me, and it's taken till now to write it. But now, with a cooler mind

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[anonamouse]

no, i think you're completely right. because, after all, the opposite gender is difficult to compete with. a person who's bi can easily "pass" in a heterosexual relationship, but in a homosexual relationship, you've got an extra set of problems.

...and it makes me ashamed, but i'm extremely distrustful of bi girls. but i realize it's mainly an insecurity thing, not a reflection on the habits or whatever of bisexual people. it's that little peanut gallery in the back of my head that says 'why would they go with me, if they could be just as happy with a boy for way less hassle? i'd have to be someone Incredibly Special to win despite those odds, and i'm pretty sure i'm not.' which then translates to, 'she's not going to stay with me anyways, so why bother.' it's awful, twisted emotional logic, and not very grounded in reality, but it's a persistent fear nonetheless.

i try not to let it get in the way of my dating habits, though. i know it's an irrational (and at this point, rather hypocritical) belief, and not fair to either myself or the hypothetical girl. i'm not there yet, but i'm working on it.