My house is rented from my parents. My dad owns it. He hasn't been the most understanding about me being unemployed. Which is odd, cause he was unemployed for 2 years!
In the beginning, he seemed to be okay. He told me that if I need money to help pay the bills, to just ask. I asked once to borrow money for a car payment. It got paid back within a month.
Since then, he likes to send me berating emails. He likes to remind me that with all my education, I should have a job by now, and what the hell is the matter with me. He also likes to leave messages on my phone asking me for money.
I stopped talking to my parents about 4 months ago, over all this.
Ugh, I'm in the "endless nagging" boat. I graduated from college in May with a history degree, but haven't had any luck finding a job. I finally bit the bullet and started literally applying everywhere (retail, grocery stores, you name it). Nothing. The lease on my apartment expires next week, and I have no choice but to move back in with my parents.
It's.....not going well, to say the least. My dad will nag me about finding a job once in a while, but he's more disapproving than angry. But my mom bitches me out on a near-daily basis. I'm not trying, I need to hurry up and find a job, they can't keep supporting me, etc. She refuses to belive me when I tell her I spend several hours a day searching career websites, because if I was actually trying I'd have a job by now. (In her opinion, anyway.) And it gives her ammo to use whenever she's angry at me, even if it's completely unrelated to my lack of a job. >____>
The history field isn't exactly booming even in the best of times. Right now it's just awful. I gave up all hope of finding something in my field for the time being.
thing is, I don't really even want a job in the history field. I just enjoyed the major. If I did something with history, I would be happy as a clam. Right now I have so little expectations that I am just trying to get anything, like so many others.
For the most part, I'm pretty lucky as far as parental support goes. I live with them, and they don't (usually) nag me about why I don't have a job yet. They understand that the economy is in the toilet. They do have a few aggravating/discouraging behaviors, however. My mom, for some reason, often acts totally shocked when I get a rejection email or don't hear back from a company at all. It's like every time I apply somewhere, she's convinced they're going to hire me. Then when they don't, her attitude of being totally stumped makes me feel like crap, like there's something wrong with me for not making the cut.
My dad is also fond of repeating the fact that he's never had to apply for a job--every single one he's ever had, someone asked him to come work for them. I always have to bite back the retort that he never tried looking for a job in an economy like this one, did he? Those kinds of comments also make me feel completely inadequate. Like I should be asking myself why people aren't beating down my door wanting me to come work for
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My mom, for some reason, often acts totally shocked when I get a rejection email or don't hear back from a company at all. It's like every time I apply somewhere, she's convinced they're going to hire me.
Ha ha, that's kind of sweet, in a way. I mean, I know it's got to be annoying for you, but it looks like your mom is blinded by motherly love and couldn't possibly comprehend why anyone would not hire her wonderful little angel.
Then when they don't, her attitude of being totally stumped makes me feel like crap, like there's something wrong with me for not making the cut.
I've stopped telling family/friends when I have a job interview or even when I'm looking. They get their hopes waaay WAY too up. "This'll be the one! You'll rock 'em! Break a leg! You'll get hired, I know it!" and so on. Then, I tell them no.
My parents are thankfully very supportive -- my dad is a financial analyst and understands that the economy is beyond shit right now, and my mom is supportive as she has always been. I've found that older people who had to live through a previous recession are much more supportive, whileas people who lack the experience of that who are employed think it's ridiculous or that something must be wrong with you if you tell them you've been looking for months.
I've noticed that. To a lot of people who still have jobs the recession doesn't seem any different than how it was before. Even though they're hearing about the economy on the news they just don't get it.
The national unemployment rate will most likely increase to above 10% within the next few months, at around that point most people will personally know at least a few other people who have lost their jobs. So that will be the silver lining as this unemployment crisis deepens, people will start to be more understanding. I think it would be good if the unemployment rate spiked up to 20% or more, as that would really make those people wake up and smell the coffee.
If I can't find more freelance work within the next month or so, I am going to be forced to move back home. When I told this to my mom over email, she told me that I would have to find a job because I'm an adult now and there are no more free rides. All I could think was GEE NO SHIT SHERLOCK!! The whole point of my moving home is to be able to have a free place to stay and free things to eat WHILE I find a goddamn job so I don't starve or end up homeless! Not sit on my ass and do nothing all day long. God
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In the beginning, he seemed to be okay. He told me that if I need money to help pay the bills, to just ask. I asked once to borrow money for a car payment. It got paid back within a month.
Since then, he likes to send me berating emails. He likes to remind me that with all my education, I should have a job by now, and what the hell is the matter with me. He also likes to leave messages on my phone asking me for money.
I stopped talking to my parents about 4 months ago, over all this.
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It's.....not going well, to say the least. My dad will nag me about finding a job once in a while, but he's more disapproving than angry. But my mom bitches me out on a near-daily basis. I'm not trying, I need to hurry up and find a job, they can't keep supporting me, etc. She refuses to belive me when I tell her I spend several hours a day searching career websites, because if I was actually trying I'd have a job by now. (In her opinion, anyway.) And it gives her ammo to use whenever she's angry at me, even if it's completely unrelated to my lack of a job. >____>
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My dad is also fond of repeating the fact that he's never had to apply for a job--every single one he's ever had, someone asked him to come work for them. I always have to bite back the retort that he never tried looking for a job in an economy like this one, did he? Those kinds of comments also make me feel completely inadequate. Like I should be asking myself why people aren't beating down my door wanting me to come work for ( ... )
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Ha ha, that's kind of sweet, in a way. I mean, I know it's got to be annoying for you, but it looks like your mom is blinded by motherly love and couldn't possibly comprehend why anyone would not hire her wonderful little angel.
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I've stopped telling family/friends when I have a job interview or even when I'm looking. They get their hopes waaay WAY too up. "This'll be the one! You'll rock 'em! Break a leg! You'll get hired, I know it!" and so on. Then, I tell them no.
[x] feel like crap. I has it.
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The national unemployment rate will most likely increase to above 10% within the next few months, at around that point most people will personally know at least a few other people who have lost their jobs. So that will be the silver lining as this unemployment crisis deepens, people will start to be more understanding. I think it would be good if the unemployment rate spiked up to 20% or more, as that would really make those people wake up and smell the coffee.
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