I want to co-miserate with you on the Bleak Thoughts Hour, because I certainly get those. Everything you have recorded, all those thoughts, is true. Life can be like that, for some folks all the time and for some of us occasionally. But also, sometimes it is so different, better. What helps me, during the the BTH, is to remind myself that this is one set of thoughts I'm having, the one most typical when I'm feeling sad, but that there are other sets of thoughts and that neither completely represents reality. I know that there are times I feel excited about life and its richness and possibility. I'm sure there's a name for this process - Relativising, maybe? Framing? - but anyway, it's one way that I blunt the impact of bleak thoughts. I can hold them less tightly this way.
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Thank you so much, for what you've said here. I think a lot of times this would be called "reframing", or finding new perspective or somesuch. I do need to do it more often. I have been an absolute mess today because I woke up with gas/bloating pain that has lasted most of the day (very likely from swallowing air due to anxiety, which causes more anxiety...what a thrilling cycle) and even therapy was not very helpful, I just felt more and more frantic listening to the therapist's calming voice lol.
Some days are indeed like that. I am trying to reframe for the rest of the day. Gas pain is uncomfortable, it's not an emergency. Feeling panicked does not mean there is an actual reason to panic. Etc etc. Reading your words has been helpful.
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I want to co-miserate with you on the Bleak Thoughts Hour, because I certainly get those. Everything you have recorded, all those thoughts, is true. Life can be like that, for some folks all the time and for some of us occasionally. But also, sometimes it is so different, better. What helps me, during the the BTH, is to remind myself that this is one set of thoughts I'm having, the one most typical when I'm feeling sad, but that there are other sets of thoughts and that neither completely represents reality. I know that there are times I feel excited about life and its richness and possibility. I'm sure there's a name for this process - Relativising, maybe? Framing? - but anyway, it's one way that I blunt the impact of bleak thoughts. I can hold them less tightly this way.
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Thank you so much, for what you've said here.
I think a lot of times this would be called "reframing", or finding new perspective or somesuch.
I do need to do it more often. I have been an absolute mess today because I woke up with gas/bloating pain that has lasted most of the day (very likely from swallowing air due to anxiety, which causes more anxiety...what a thrilling cycle) and even therapy was not very helpful, I just felt more and more frantic listening to the therapist's calming voice lol.
Some days are indeed like that.
I am trying to reframe for the rest of the day. Gas pain is uncomfortable, it's not an emergency. Feeling panicked does not mean there is an actual reason to panic. Etc etc.
Reading your words has been helpful.
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