my angry post of the day

[taste_of_water]

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[taste_of_water]

*revels in hug*

thanks, I always worry that I'm being petty or being 'to sensitive' when it comes to things like this

I'll ask her but I'm not gonna hold my breath, after all stubbornness (is it really two b's, n's and s's?) runs in the family.

[taste_of_water]

*smiles* I've talked to my mom and she says that she'll think about it! *hugs you back even MORE*

I had such a O.o moment when I did the spell check that I had to ask ;)

[gildinwen]

Oh honey *hugs* I know how you feel. and it's even worse because my dad is a doctor. You'd think that'd make him cautious about his health but no......it's even more frustating because he does things he knows he shouldn't do (smoking and drinking)

I don't know what you can do, other talk to her about it, rationally. If nerves don't show up on an x-ray - it *might* have been an ultrasound I'm guessing, that doctor don't operate without a reason, and if they've recommended an operation, then it's possible that they've considered all the other options -including the heating pads on them everynight- and have decided this is the best- or have you already done that? *confused*
It suck when we have to be the adult in the parent/child relationship doesn't it?

*hugs you very tightly*

[taste_of_water]

I've talked to my mom, and while she said that she would think about the surgery (yay) she also asked me why I was so interested in it. o_O
Why is she genuinely stunned at my interest in her well being?

I'm starting to believe that the whole older=wiser thing is made up (don't even get me started on the whole 'I'm an adult, let me worry about my own health' argument)

I'm afraid that I can't clear anything up for you, my mom didn't tell me anything about her examination, only that they didn't do an x-ray. I found out about the surgery option because I happened to pick up the phone when her doctor called looking for her.

As for the heating pads, my mom haven't tried anything of the sort she just said that that was what she had wanted to hear from her doctor (not that she would stick to it anyway but that's a whole other issue).

I think they're just paying us back for when we were kids.

*hugs you back*
if you ever need to talk about your dad, I'm here ok?

[gildinwen]

I think adult are so used to being the adults in the parent-child relationship , when we grow up and start worrying about them it freaks them out, because you know we're not little kids any more.
Hence the confusion about why we would be so worried about their health.

And you know the whole they're paying us back for when we were kids is also possible.

And thank you for being there when I want to rant my dad. Ranting about parents is fun :D

[taste_of_water]

If you don't rant about your parents once in a while you'll implode and I like you, so I don't want that to happen ;D

[crabapplered]

Actually, I can add the voice of experience to this: your shoulders being messed up can and will mess up your hands. I know, because it happened to me. I gave myself a wicked case of tendonitis and lost half the feeling in my hands and all the feeling in my elbows while I was in highschool due to bad posture and a crappy schoolbag. The nerves in your hands are connected through your shoulders, and messing them up can result in issues with your hands.

If that is what's happenning though, then it's absolutely vital you get rid of that bag she's using. Period. Because if she's got what I had, then what she's doing is slowly killing her nerves, and it could become permanent (I still can't feel things very well in my fingertips). And, yes, some serious professional massage or accupreasure therapy would probably be a good thing to look into as well. Another thing that might help is pushups, to stretch the muscles.

At the very least, it will let you do something. Hell, make a bargain with her: let her try this first, and then in a few

[taste_of_water]

thank you, your comment have given me a new view of the problem (I'm not gonna lie, it feels like both of us are fumbling around in the dark right now). Unfortunately, it doesn't change things that much