Comments | tamago23: I am made of parenting win

tamago23

I am made of parenting win

Oct 02, 2008 20:28

I've been reading several books that I'm hoping will help me deal better with Gavin and be a more effective parent for him. These are "Taming Your Spirited Child", "Parenting Your Spirited Child", and "Parents, Kids, and Power Struggles ( Read more... )

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cybress October 3 2008, 23:33:12 UTC

I love scholastic!!! OMG I have intense urge to see the catalogue... or however you spell it to lazy to use spell check today. :P What grade do the kiddies start to get that? Bill's daughter is into grade 1 this year... wait... what year is Gavin in... wholly brain fart! *puts head under pillows like osteracha... omg spelling train wreck*
splap a lhsldhasgha alkdhaflfhj *from under pillows*
I lost all my Hades scent! *pouts greatly*

P.S
Congrats on the communication with Gavin!

tamago23 October 4 2008, 03:31:09 UTC

Aw! I'll have to look it up and see whether Hades is general catalog or limited edition.

Moo started getting it when he was doing the community centre programs, when he was 3 years old. Now he's in junior kindergarten. Bill's daughter should definitely be getting them by now, assuming her school doesn't.

tamago23 October 4 2008, 03:31:45 UTC

Er, I meant to say "assuming her school does it". :)

cybress October 4 2008, 16:08:48 UTC

I had the imp wrapped in saran wrap but it fell on it's side and when I found it... the saran smelt awesome but the empty imp at which point I tell myself "figures, cus I fell in love with it first sniff" :P If it's not general I will just have a hunt on my hands *hehe* I like finding treasure!

If she doesn't I'm going to be all over your purdy pages. *LOL* Is the stuff as neat as I remember?

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crazyredhead888 October 4 2008, 05:06:25 UTC

I think it's awesome that you are making such a big effort with him. I know I get impatient with the kids a lot and snap at them way too often. I always feel like such an asshole after I do it too. I always wish I was doing more/a better job, but I think we all feel that way.

tamago23 October 4 2008, 07:02:32 UTC

My suspicion is that the bad parents usually don't feel that way. They probably feel that they're doing a fine job and they don't question how things are.

I wish I hadn't let things slide in our relationship to the point where I need to make such a big effort, but with the new baby it's been so easy to let them slide. :/ Oh well. All I can ask of myself is that I fix things now, and I'm trying my hardest on that front. :)

crazyredhead888 October 5 2008, 00:02:11 UTC

So that guilty feeling we get is the sign that we're good parents? If that's the case I'm the greatest parent ever, cause I feel guilty all the time, lol. I feel really shitty right now cause I have just no energy for the kids at all...god I can't wait to have this baby. I know I will be tired and all that, but I can't wait to be able to walk around again.

The big thing is that you are trying to fix things...that's so important and I really commend you for it.

tamago23 October 5 2008, 01:19:16 UTC

Well, I don't know if guilt makes us good parents, but I think it means that 1) we care about our kids enough to want to do better, and 2) we recognize that we could be doing better, rather than simply blindly trusting that we're awesome parents and doing a perfect job. I think whether we're good parents or not comes into the equation with the next step: 1) does our guilt motivate us into changing things (assuming things can be changed - obviously in your case, and in my case while pregnant, there's a physiologial problem)? and 2) are we constantly looking for ways in which we can be better parents, and do we adapt our strategies and seek out new ones if the ones we have aren't working?

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