Post study abroad email from my godmother

[talene309]

I want you to tell me everything about your experiences in Japan. Since you arrived, your friends and how the culture influenced you. Why didn't you get married to a Japanese guy? I want you to get married already. Remember that you have a huge heart

Comments

[uranus_sama]

Let's think about this for a minute though. Your godmother is coming at this from her point of view. She knows that youre going through tough times, and settling down and getting married would (in theory, anyways) offer you some protection and support. And, as you say here, culturally that's what Mexicans do. She's saying this not because she's trying to make you feel inadequate, but because she cares and worries about you and getting married would offer a quick fix to end your problems (at least in her mind).

But you know that it's far more complicated than that. You dont need to live by anyones' standards but your own. Marriages born out of expectancy and necessity arent necessarily healthy.

Try not to let it get you down. Try instead to shake your head, roll your eyes, and say to yourself, "Oh godmother... you care so much about me yet you dont know whats best for me... but Im glad you care."

=)

[elfe666]

maybe she just wanted to kinda cheer you up with that to show she understands how you feel about wanting to live abroad? since 6 months are definitely not really ideal for finding someone and marrying them right away unless you pay them to marry you just for staying in japan... which is a) not very romantic and b) not possible unless you win in a lottery (just being sarcastic here >_>)
apart from that, in my own opinion, marriage is a bad idea to begin with -_-; don't let them press you in old traditions, times change and you are you, not who they want you to be.