Rape fantasy and resistance play

[tacit]

Note: This is part 7 of an occasional ongoing "how to" series on BDSM.

Part 1 of the series, How to Tie a Rope Harness Part I, is here.
Part 2 of the series, How to Tie a Frog Tie, is here.
Part 3 of the series, How to Tie a Shinju, is here.
Part 4 of the series, How to Make a Custom Dildo out of Ice, is here.
Part 5 of the series, How to Make a

Comments

[tacit]

It's black text on a light background. The background is set in the post, but the color of the text is not. If oyu are using an LJ style or theme which uses light-colored text, that's probably the problem. Try looking at the page, and if you see "&style=mine" on the end of the URL, take that off. This will tell LJ not to run the post through your theme, and to use the text color set in the post instead of the text color set in your theme.

[gentleindiff]

"(In fact, I've talked to one person who has been raped for real, an experience she did not enjoy at all, who nevertheless still has fantasies about non-consent. The reality and the fantasy live in very different places, and are very different things.)" I can't thank you enough for putting this in there.

This is phenomenal. I think I'm going to talk to Master about it in the near future.

[strega42]

Another neat trick with knives is to show your "victim" a very real, scary looking knife, and substitute a metal letter-opener for it after they're blindfolded. This minimizes the possibility of nicking your "victim" if they zig when they should have zagged.

This is a great essay! Thanks especially for pointing out that the aggressor may also need to safeword out; I think that often gets forgotten.

[tacit]

That's an excellent idea! In fact, I've added it to the final version. :)

[samhainborn]

Thanks for posting this.

[scrappygeek]

Nice! I'm another example of someone who has been raped for real, but still has nonconsensual fantasies. This was a very helpful introduction - thank you!