Comments | tabloidscully: Vent Post: Preschool Drama

tabloidscully

Vent Post: Preschool Drama

Oct 30, 2011 15:56

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northernwalker October 31 2011, 00:16:29 UTC

I'd be considering strangling her with some of the fabric scraps on my couch if it were me. Or maybe the elastic in my sewing bag- I know how to braid garrottes, after all.

tabloidscully October 31 2011, 06:01:50 UTC

Braided garrottes? Nice! That's a visual to remember.

Unfortunately, my crap couch doesn't even have any fabric scraps to spare. Ah, dreams.

idemandjustice October 31 2011, 00:27:01 UTC

I don't know how you manage to be so civil to her, honestly. I guess it comes from just not really having much of a choice, but I don't know if I could manage.

tabloidscully October 31 2011, 05:48:34 UTC

It's honestly very difficult, but it's been something of a growing process. When we first met each other for the second time (the first being when B and I had just started dating) it was after H had already been born, and I could not handle being in the same room as her without experiencing a host of physical symptoms. It took all of the composure I had not to tell her exactly what I thought of her--and I'm not particularly renown for keeping my opinions to myself ( ... )

hep October 31 2011, 01:47:20 UTC

the fact that you aren't slapping used diapers into her face is already a testament to your compassion! you don't need to make with the warm fuzzies (which, let's be honest, are mostly for her benefit, not yours) to prove that. i admire your strength!

tabloidscully October 31 2011, 05:52:14 UTC

Thanks. It's truly been an evolution. You're still a new LJ friend, but as I said above, we went from me needing to leave the room so I didn't say something I regretted to having conversations regularly. She's still not my friend and she never will be (and, I suspect if she were being honest, she would admit that she doesn't actually want to be my friend, either) but I do feel being civil is a step up from the way things were before.

I don't always feel strong, though. A lot of times, I just feel phony because although I don't hate her anymore, I do feel myself going out of my way to an extent I don't necessarily think I should, but I do for H's sake.

Still, slapping used diapers in her face? Hmm. We'll call that Coping Plan C. That is what I'll default to if counseling and bubble-blowing doesn't work.

wikkidraven October 31 2011, 10:01:46 UTC

I know it's not possible for you at the moment, but every time I read your entries my first thought is that if I were in your situation, I would move.

tabloidscully November 2 2011, 18:28:19 UTC

I've thought about it. Sigh.

sherastormz October 31 2011, 17:45:31 UTC

Can we back up to her telling you she's still in love with your husband? A friend of ours (one of Jake's exes) is still completely in love with him (it's painfully obvious) but she never had the balls to come out and say it. I might respect her more if she did. What happened?

tabloidscully November 1 2011, 07:31:21 UTC

I'm not sure how to answer your question. I'm inclined to say that she thinks were friends, either because of all the progress we've made in our co-parenting relationship or because she doesn't have anyone else and has really forgotten what friendship looks like ( ... )