While I could see her feeling offended at being left out of a discussion about her child, the fact that there was only a 20-minute time lag kind of deflates that argument. Plus, being pouty a week later just makes her sound like a toddler. Unfortunately, you can't put P in time out.
I'm not sure how I could have handled the situation differently to make her feel more included. Pick up the phone the moment the director said, "Well, how about this instead?" I guess, but given the communication issues we've been having, it's understandable why I didn't.
Still, to your point, a 20-minute turnaround (if that!) really does take away a lot of her ground, in my opinion. And if Martyr wasn't picking up the bill, she absolutely would have been my second phone call. But she just doesn't want to acknowledge that there was absolutely no point in even talking to her if we had no way to pay for it.
In the next day, I'll post about the actual conversation we had, which truly illustrated her toddler-like behavior.
It seems to me as if, no matter how proactive in avoiding issues w/P, given your relationship with her, she's always going to find somehow for conflict to exist between you because without it, she feels like she has no control over any of this. She wants to justify casting you in the role as villain, and the harder you try to make sure she won't be able to find something wrong with what you think or do in regards to H, (because he's the one thing she can pull rank on), and the less she has to grab a foothold on, hence the drama about 20 mins. Ideally, all three of you would act always in the vein of what's truly best for H, but we all know that sometimes things you care about are sabotaged by our own personal needs for validation and other emotional issues. I don't know how to fix it all, but I think it would be worth your own patience to try to make P feel like she has some control over situations involving H, EVEN if she actually doesn't.
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Still, to your point, a 20-minute turnaround (if that!) really does take away a lot of her ground, in my opinion. And if Martyr wasn't picking up the bill, she absolutely would have been my second phone call. But she just doesn't want to acknowledge that there was absolutely no point in even talking to her if we had no way to pay for it.
In the next day, I'll post about the actual conversation we had, which truly illustrated her toddler-like behavior.
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Also, I'd like to respond to your other points, but am not sure what to do since you deleted your comment...?
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