Parenting: Eating

Aug 12, 2011 15:56

As I told a friend today, I'm living in my head a lot lately. It isn't total unhappiness, but it involves a lot of discontent ( Read more... )

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ruethee August 13 2011, 00:59:59 UTC
What the fuck? You do not need to stop nursing her! Just add foods AND nurse.

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devilgrrl August 13 2011, 03:25:58 UTC
I agree. Your ped is crazy. Stopping or cutting back nursing would be the absolute worst thing to do. At least she is getting calories from there ( ... )

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tabloidscully August 13 2011, 04:37:15 UTC
No no, not stop nursing, but ease up on it being her primary source of nutrition. The problem is, if Sephie had her way, she would only nurse. She's not really terribly interested in food, and getting her to take anything except the boob is such a struggle.

Today was the first day we did it. She ate a lot of the Plum Organics baby puffs and she liked them, but still wanted to nurse when she was finished. We also fed her shredded chicken. But she cried through all of it and only wanted milk. I had to at least give the other food a go before I tried nursing her, and that's what makes me feel so bad.

Thanks for the resources, ladies. I was pretty upset when I was posting so I probably don't make any sense right now, or before.

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devilgrrl August 13 2011, 05:23:23 UTC
Is there a IBCLC or a Peer Counsellor you might be able to see who could give more suggestions?

Don't worry about being upset; I think any of us would in the same situation. I hope you're able to get answers soon.

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tabloidscully August 14 2011, 17:39:11 UTC
Thanks, lady.

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ruethee August 14 2011, 17:40:43 UTC
We. Must. Hang. Out. Soon.

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tabloidscully August 14 2011, 17:45:06 UTC
Totally agree. I need to get out of my head for a while and I have prefolds for you anyway!

How mobile are you?

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blinkerbook August 13 2011, 03:44:52 UTC
Wow, I'm sorry I've been all "me me me ( ... )

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tabloidscully August 13 2011, 16:52:22 UTC
Hey, don't be sorry. I called you to see how you were doing, seriously. Besides, it helps me get out of myself if I reach out to other people and put their needs first. I haven't always been great about that, and talking to you did make me feel better ( ... )

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happygophucky August 13 2011, 16:45:15 UTC
Although I am not a doctor or a mom... I can see where your doctor is trying to come from. Sephie is going to get her eating habits from you. Just like your mom influenced your eating habits, you are going to influence Sephie's eating habits from the get go ( ... )

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tabloidscully August 14 2011, 17:43:35 UTC
Thank you for taking the time to post such a thoughtful reply. I can relate to forgetting to eat or just flat-out ignoring my hunger all together. Sometimes it's a sense of apathy about self-care, other times it's pure laziness. I spend all day chasing after dogs and minding children and keeping house, I just don't have the energy to cook ( ... )

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thenextcentury August 15 2011, 11:17:07 UTC
I think the poster above made great points. Sephie will get her eating habits from you, so it'll be easier to start setting a good example now before she's really aware of it. And it's possible that by grazing, you're actually taking in more calories than if you ate at set mealtimes with everything in front of you. You don't have to eat everything on your plate, but setting out a balanced amount of food really can't hurt. Maybe by going through these stages with Sephie, you can sort of reset yourself in a more healthful way, sort of like reparenting yourself since you didn't have a good situation yourself growing up.

I also think the other poster who suggested pumping off a little of the foremilk has a good thing going -- that way she can get more of the hindmilk which has more fat/calories, right?

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tabloidscully August 16 2011, 07:16:42 UTC
This is so true. I agree that re-parenting myself in this respect would do wonders for both Sephie and I. I feel like I've made a lot of progress but obviously I need to do more, and not settle for just grazing when it isn't doing either her or any favors.

Thanks for the input, lady.

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helenix August 14 2011, 17:24:02 UTC
hey there. i know i haven't commented much; i don't have the internet at home & only recently have the opportunity to get on lj at a babysitting gig while the little one is occupied. as the daughter of a lactivist, & a good friend of a few others, i have to say your ped's advice sounds suspect. i'd get a second opinion if i were you. how old is Sephie exactly ? in many cultures babies up to 2 get their primary nutrition from breast milk. it's a good idea that YOU begin eating larger meals, perhaps even including Sephie in them, inviting her to try what you're trying, etc. gently transitioning more solid food into her daily diet is a good idea. your example is paramount in that sense. but, dude, if her natural preference is to take her nourishment from your breasts still, then she knows best. devilgrrl's got great suggestions about pumping foremilk & upping your own fat intake. very smart ( ... )

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p.s. helenix August 14 2011, 17:26:36 UTC
Also, maybe look into info on child-led weaning & breastfeeding practices in non-industrialised cultures for another perspective.

i'll look up some links to good pages...

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Re: p.s. helenix August 14 2011, 17:31:20 UTC
www.drmomma.org ... everything on here is awesomeness, including great links. browse this site at your leisure; i'm sure you'll find some useful info.

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Re: p.s. ruethee August 14 2011, 17:47:13 UTC
Drmomma is awesome. AWESOME. Always backs her info with references and facts, too.

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