Comments | tabloidscully: Vent Post: Family Ties

tabloidscully

Vent Post: Family Ties

Mar 23, 2011 16:28

I just called my dad, because I hadn't talked to him in a few days. Turns out he's currently getting smashed with my brothers. That's great; he doesn't see either of them enough as it is, what with DJ living in Dallas ( Read more... )

brothers, abuse, childhood issues

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sherastormz March 24 2011, 22:27:18 UTC

I get your frustration and I can see where you're coming from, but honestly if I'd been in Ryan's shoes I'd have probably said no too. Taking on an ill pet is like having a toddler, and I know that from experience. Adopting a young animal is basically a practice baby and is something you can work on together as a couple, taking in an older dog is just sort of waiting for the clock to run out. I know it's selfish and given how much you love Savannah and the situation in which you got her it does seem very unfair.
Your last few posts have seemed a bit... unhappy. Which is fine, half the fun of having a blog is having a safe place to vent yourself, but I can't help but ask if everything current is okay. You mentioned post-partum but never said anything else about it.

Anyway, sorry to play devil's advocate, and completely uneloquently at that, I'm sleep deprived and ODing on espresso.

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tabloidscully March 25 2011, 06:00:01 UTC

I understand what you're saying, though to be fair, it wasn't treatment for something putting her in the terminally ill category, it was strictly routine pain maintenance. But I didn't have the ability to afford paying $200+ a month in pain meds, as I could barely pay the bills of rent and everything at the time.

Still, I would have understood had Ryan listed her health as a reason. But he didn't. He blamed his cat and his wife by proxy, insisting that the cat "didn't like dogs". And it's shitty considering that the whole reason I have her is that eight years ago, he was supposedly going "out of town for a few days" and dropped her off at the apartment Dad and I were living in. He never asked for her back, and rarely has he ever helped off-set the costs associated with her care during that time.

As far as seeming unhappy, I think it's due to a combination of things, mostly postpartum and the work I'm doing in therapy on the stuff I've never really faced before. I've been avoiding confronting those demons for years, but now, as a ( ... )