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tabloidscully

Personal Post: Untitled

Aug 12, 2010 05:16

The total lack of compassion some people can have for others never ceases to amaze me. I cannot, for the life of me, understand how someone complaining about something like "baby name stealing" will generate three dozen compassionate replies in a community that's allegedly geared towards all things pregnancy related, but someone posting about a ( Read more... )

b, pregnancy, breaking the silence, angry and annoying people, feminism, childhood issues

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sarianna August 12 2010, 13:14:20 UTC

Hey AMP? (Well. You won't be AMP much longer, I suppose.) Thank you for posting this. I am feeling all kinds of crazy right now. I moved to my own place on 8/1 to get away from my boyfriend's emotionally and psychologically abusive ex-wife (who we were living with, so the kiddo could have his dad around, and I hadn't realized how bad she was). Oh, and on Monday I found out that I am 4 weeks pregnant. I don't know what I am gonna do at this point. But reading your post made me feel less alone, and a little less scared. So, thanks, though I can't quite work out more words just yet. :)

tabloidscully August 20 2010, 03:04:01 UTC

I thought for sure I had responded to this. I guess not. I'm sorry! I hope you don't think I was ignoring you.

Basically, I want to say that you're in such a tough situation. I remember you initially being so excited about it, and marveling at your capacity to be the better person. I could NEVER allow myself to share the same space with Paula. I mean, I can barely handle it for a few hours, let alone all the time.

You're in such a tough spot. I wish I could give you some advice, but I don't have any, really. I don't know. I'm just really sorry for the situation that you're in.

Completely random - not quite awake - comment... happygophucky August 12 2010, 14:20:36 UTC

IT's funny... but your experiences with the pregnancy boards reminds me of everything that i hate about women. Oh... and about dog message boards ( ... )

Re: Completely random - not quite awake - comment... happygophucky August 12 2010, 14:24:25 UTC

PS and I realize I'm going to piss people off with my "IT's funny... but your experiences with the pregnancy boards reminds me of everything that i hate about women. " Probably even yuo...

But I freely admit that women are a huge hang-up of mine even though I am a woman myself. My first abuser was a woman and while i love my mom to death, that left a mark. Then there's all the petty bullshit i have to listen to at my workplace which is just nauseating in itself.

So, if I offend you I apologize I probably could word myself better - but I can't explain everything I mean by that first line in the time I have. A conversation for another day.

heartem August 12 2010, 17:45:01 UTC

So, I feel like you're in a really good place right now. I know how it is dealing with abusive people and I know how much strength it takes to overcome those experiences, and how many emotions it takes to deal with them. I am very proud of you. Truly. You have picked your self up by your bootstraps and not only kept living, but THRIVED. I feel incredibly fortunate to call you a friend for about a trillion reasons. One of them is that we're all in this together and women should be helping women. You have helped me in more ways than you imagined. I have learned so much from you and I am grateful for every little piece of it. Which I should have known the day I met you when the boys couldn't figure out what color purse you had. ;) You are an amazing, incredible, incredibly strong, beautiful, gorgeous, wicked smart woman and I am honored that I get to be a part of your life. I heart you and can't wait til tonight when I will get to see you :) YOU ROCK MY LIFE, LOVEY!

bucheau August 12 2010, 17:57:04 UTC

I'm fairly certain that's why (given that I do payroll and meet all my daughter's friends) that people just make up names nowadays like Shaniqua and Anuale and such- then they know nobody can steal the name.

I am glad over the long haul you've managed to climb back over the emotional cliffs from the past.

Oh, and in case you may need it for some future child, you can always go back to more ancient names. I think I mentioned in my journal some time back that when one of my maternal relatives researched and created our family tree I actually have a guy from the 1800's in my branches named "Dufus". I'm fairly sure no one will take that one from you.

tabloidscully August 12 2010, 18:00:44 UTC

Haha, Dufus. That's too perfect.

Honestly, if someone wants to "steal" Sephie's name, have at it! I stole it from a Greek goddess who was apparently not offended enough to render me barren, so I think I can share.