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The total lack of compassion some people can have for others never ceases to amaze me. I cannot, for the life of me, understand how someone complaining about something like "baby name stealing" will generate three dozen compassionate replies in a community that's allegedly geared towards all things pregnancy related, but someone posting about a
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I can't read dog community message boards anymore because of the inanity of the questions. I still want to help people but owning a dog is not rocket science. If you want the answers, TRULY WANT THE ANSWERS, there are more than enough resources out there. All you have to do is take the time to read them.
Most people don't want to do that.
As for my first opinion - i've seen/heard about the name game before. It's nauseating in my opinion. "Yes, we know you are truly an amazing mommy, and you are so different and unique... but just because you named your kid one thing doesn't mean you own the name and no one you ever know about can use it to name their cat or dog or you know, their own kid."
Speaking of that, my oldest nephew Teddy was named (kind of) after the cat his parents had at the time of his conception. The cat died prior to boy Teddy being born, and they transferred the name onto their first born because they liked it so much.
Me? I've named my previous dogs names that I'd of liked to have named my kids - Tilor, Kody, and Logan. But since I didn't see myself having kids in this lifetime, and pretty much still don't, naming my dogs as such seemed like a good idea.
At any rate, naming aside, the points you bring up about how people want to sweep domestic violence away as an attention getting gimmick on the part of needy personalities? Yeah, it turns my stomach.
Having been in shoes similar to yours - put in the hospital after a double OD in less than 24 hours because i couldn't deal with my life with my abusive ex anymore - and being told repeatedly that I won't get better until I leave the bastard? I knew what the doctors were telling me was true, but despite the fact i didn't want to be abused/neglected anymore I didn't feel strong enough to leave. I thought I DESERVED to be abused/neglected because that's how my life had always been.
That was in 2002.
I did finally leave Jason about 3 or 4 months later, after losing Kody, of course.
It's been a slow, steady climb out of that mindset ever since. I've had my setbacks, of course, but you can't make someone leave abuse. They have to discover on their own that they are far stronger than their abusers ever gave them credit for.
But I am with you. If it hadn't been for my writing, or the general chat rooms that I was in for 8 years talking to other random people about things like abuse and rape, I am not sure I would have gotten a clue about what i had inside of me.
I know I am not in a traditional committed relationship now. But it's honestly one of the most healthy relationships I've ever been in. D has also had a lot of trauma in his life and is now commitment shy - but he's the most supportive, caring guy I have ever (not) dated.
If i hadn't gotten through the life of abuse I had, I may not have had the patience to be with a guy like D.
Also, I'm glad you didn't listen. Otherwise we never would have found each other...
I look forward to seeing the photos of Sephie when she comes into your world. :)
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But I freely admit that women are a huge hang-up of mine even though I am a woman myself. My first abuser was a woman and while i love my mom to death, that left a mark. Then there's all the petty bullshit i have to listen to at my workplace which is just nauseating in itself.
So, if I offend you I apologize I probably could word myself better - but I can't explain everything I mean by that first line in the time I have. A conversation for another day.
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