In an effort to put more than just a rundown of my month every once a month in my journal, let's try sharing (in the loving, passive-aggressive way that only I can
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1. Banging on the piano = wonderful stress release.
2. I am sure that you already know this, but, being an amazing woman has zero to do with whether or not you've pushed a child out from between your legs. Being a mother has little to do with it as well, actually. I think there are ways to be a "Mother" that have nothing to do with children at all, and sometimes, those ways are more impactful and meaningful than adding more bodies to the earth.
I don't plan on tiny humans being born with my dna. I don't feel like this makes me less of a woman, but society certainly does. So, fuck society, yes? The majority does not always know best. (I also think I am very opinionated on this issue, so don't mind me.)
I have to agree with littlearsonist, and also add that some of those wife & mom's you went to high school with who are posting on facebook, are living much farther away from society's norms than you probably realize. :)
All I can say is...I have no idea what the fuck is going on, but I've been dealing with serious business maternal instincts too, and feeling crappy because I'm not giving into them/haven't found a partner to give into them with/have chosen a life path that will make it really hard to ever give into them.
It sucks and is annoying and it needs to stop. I will have some god damned offspring when I am good and ready. Maybe. And if I don't, it is not the end of the god damned world.
*THIS* Possible because we have the same high school classmates ;-)
What really cracks me up is when people ask what I do, and i almost apologize for being one of those women who's spent more time focusing on getting an education and a career than a husband and children, and people look at me sympathetically.
And moments later, one of my stay-at-home mom (or dad) friends will almost apologize for being a stay-at-home parent, instead of being out in the world being a productive member of society, and folks will look at them sympathetically.
Seems no matter what patterns we fall into, we feel as though we're not as good as we should be, eh? No worries though, my friend, we're both doing well, and we'll make it through.
The part of this that I hate the most is not that people look at me as a failure, which some of them most certainly do. It's not that I am 95% sure that I am physically unable to have my own biological children. It's not the fact that I too keep seeing my contemporaries marrying and popping out brats like there's no tomorrow (although that is the second most-hated part of it
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2. I am sure that you already know this, but, being an amazing woman has zero to do with whether or not you've pushed a child out from between your legs. Being a mother has little to do with it as well, actually. I think there are ways to be a "Mother" that have nothing to do with children at all, and sometimes, those ways are more impactful and meaningful than adding more bodies to the earth.
I don't plan on tiny humans being born with my dna. I don't feel like this makes me less of a woman, but society certainly does. So, fuck society, yes? The majority does not always know best. (I also think I am very opinionated on this issue, so don't mind me.)
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It sucks and is annoying and it needs to stop. I will have some god damned offspring when I am good and ready. Maybe. And if I don't, it is not the end of the god damned world.
You, too.
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What really cracks me up is when people ask what I do, and i almost apologize for being one of those women who's spent more time focusing on getting an education and a career than a husband and children, and people look at me sympathetically.
And moments later, one of my stay-at-home mom (or dad) friends will almost apologize for being a stay-at-home parent, instead of being out in the world being a productive member of society, and folks will look at them sympathetically.
Seems no matter what patterns we fall into, we feel as though we're not as good as we should be, eh? No worries though, my friend, we're both doing well, and we'll make it through.
*love*
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