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[sweety167]

What do you do when your “Divorced Boyfriend” really isn’t divorced at all? It’s not even a matter of divorcED versus divorcING but separated. A whole other ballpark. It’s not a lie exactly, but an omission of the truth. Apparently the marriage was just so long over that it’s considered divorced by all sides, and their families... but technically,

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[surfergirl17]

If I were you I would be pissed. But of course, as I can never get angry when I really ought to, I'm in no position to advise. So I shall offer an open door for venting, should you need it. I will say this, though. You did break the pattern, you chose something different based on his version of the truth. His lies don't, or shouldn't at least, change the fact that you chose something different for yourself. You shouldn't feel stupid at all.

[sweety167]

I don't think I've really hit angry so much as really, REALLY hurt.
But even if I did choose something different...it makes me feel even stupider for a) bothering to. and b) falling, yet again, for lies. I hate having my choices taken away.. and that's what he did. He didn't give me a choice in this... Okay, maybe I am angry. But all I want to do is cry, and curl up into a ball. It's like everything he's said has been under false pretenses. I'm at square one again... trust zero, walls up. :(

(thanks for the vent offer... I seemed to have taken you up on it.)

[surfergirl17]

You're more than welcome to vent anytime. My journal is nothing but venting right now,and you obviously are listening so... Everything you're saying makes sense, I just hate seeing you blame yourself for it.

[sweety167]

thankfully these journals are here for venting. Thank you.

[magdalena_01]

Oh hun it's not your fault. I know it's easy to blame ourselves first. But you tried something different and tried to do right. He's the only one to blame. Not sure how you really feel about him, but if it is something serious for you - maybe you could give him an ultimatum... Otherwise, the relationship might be ultimately doomed. It seems most that have supposed exes that aren't exes - those x's either keep interfering or the guy keeps going back to the ex and cheating and wants the best of both worlds.
*le sigh* I'm sorry you have had trouble yet again, especially since you are a person that doesn't deserve this crap. *hugs for you*

[sweety167]

Well... we're supposed to be serious, with the capital S. And I do love him... He claims that he's going to go get the divorce, that he's going to start that process - but go figure, I have a little trouble trusting. Not just him, but men overall. *le sigh* is right...

[magdalena_01]

I see. Well I'm right there with you. I don't trust anyone at all. I hope it works out for you and he does go through with it and all of that. :) It would probably help with your trust a bit I should say. If he asks what you want for Xmas, tell him paper showing the start of the divorce procedure! ;-P lol

[sweety167]

Yeah.. all I want for Christmas is his divorce. haha Oy. But he knows that any trust is being rebuilt now. And earned.
But hopefully it works out. With those walls up again, everything seems numb.