One of the Four Loves

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The Greeks have four words for love. There is agape, or spiritual love; storge, which is familial love; philia, which is the love between friends; and of course eros, sexual love.

I have problems with all four. Eros is a wasteland for me and always has been. My family is a source of constant trouble, much of which I cause myself. And I've been

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You're wrong that I'm pushing you away. I'm sorry I gave that impression. Nonverbal communication is a fucking minefield.

You haven't become anything but an even better Kate. If someone has changed for the worse, it's me.

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I can relate to much of this. I have incredibly high standards for friendship though, and I'm incredily independent, so I tell myself it doesn't matter when people come and go, people do come and go, and as long as I'm comfortable with myself it will be okay.

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This is a great post. Thank you. I'd be interested in what you come up with further about this, since I see some of the same problems in my own life (even though I'm 12 years younger). I'm trying to figure out a longterm plan for handling the world in which my friends "settle down" and I find such an existence stifling and silly.