Women Complimenting Women on their Eyes

[stormdog]

Earlier today or yesterday, someone on Facebook expressed that straight women never compliment other women on their eyes, and that doing so is pretty clear flirtation. I've been wondering, off and on about the accuracy of that statement since I've never really been good at flirtation, and have, like, no experience being flirty as a woman.

Just now,

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[anais_pf]

Straight here, but a little gender bendy in behavior. It is very, very rare that I compliment people on their appearance. (Though lots of women used to compliment my clothing etc when I would see them at work, I was not in the habit of doing that. It seems like a silly female bonding exercise, and I was there to work, not to make friends.) Anyway, in a show I performed in once, there was a substitute actress playing my daughter, and at one point she and I were supposed to gaze at each other, and I noticed she had the most beautiful clear blue eyes, and after the scene I told her so. But this memory is notable because it's an exception. That said, I'm probably not your best test subject for this question.

I do think that one of the ways people flirt with each other is to compliment each other on their appearance in specific ways. Men do this with women a lot more than women do it, I think.

[stormdog]

Thank you for the insight!

Many years ago, I was working registration at a furry convention and met this guy who had the most striking blue eyes I have ever seen. I don't know what it was about them, but I don't remember faces well (as you know) and I can still sort of remember the way his eyes looked. I thought he was gorgeous. The long hair helped, but it was mostly the eyes. I don't think I have *ever* had that immediate feeling of attraction with anyone else in my life.

Later that weekend, he told me that I was exactly the kind of person he and his partner enjoyed playing with and I got an invitation. I declined because I was still with my ex and poly was a big source of contention for us. I wish I could have that chance again.