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[stormdog]

In other news, I resent the fact that legal marriage makes my partner responsible for any incurred debt. Is that patriarchal? Or just opportunistic debt collectors? My partner should not be legally responsible for my financial choices. If I make a choice that could incur debt, she is legally responsible for that debt, and it is unethical for me to

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[kanzeon_2040]

https://www.marriage.com/advice/family-financial-planning/debt-and-marriage-am-i-liable-for-my-spouses-debts/

[stormdog]

Thanks; that's useful to look through.

[anais_pf]

This really begs the question: Have you asked Danae whether it is okay with her that you co-sign the loan? If she says no, that's one thing. But if you don't even ask her, that's another.

[stormdog]

Oh, absolutely! I talked to her first before asking my parents. I'd rather have been able to sign myself rather than ask them; it's a difficult position to put them in.

Danae is really not ok with me co-signing. Money, she said in our discussion, is *never* emotional. I fundamentally disagree with that. This may be actually be the first structural relationships thing in -- what, nine years? -- that we have this kind of deep disconnect on.