I think I could turn this into a stand-up routine

[stepping_stones]

I'm probably going to get unnecessarily bitchy in this post, and I'm not going to apologize for that, I just want you to take this with a grain of salt because of that. Really. I'm not that bitter over it. I'm just drunk. That's all

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[amazingtomatoes]

sucks, dude. :(

[stepping_stones]

Thank you for the sympathy (really, I appreciate it!), but it's not nearly as melodramatic as all that. I meant it when I said "I'm just drunk." Really, what I'm going to do today is walk into the HR director's office and say, "Hi, Jiminy's on me about the pink shirt again. Normally, this wouldn't make me uncomfortable, but I can't really be myself about this because that's inappropriate for the workplace. I'm kind of sick of hearing about it. Could you say something to him?" After she does, either the problem is solved or Jiminy will face disciplinary action if he brings it up again, or the HR director will if Jiminy doesn't.

What's gonna be funny is to hear what the cricket will have to say when I start taking hormones in January and then developing breasts a few months later. I very well may die laughing.

[firinn]

Forgive me for not indulging verbal diarrhea, here. I'm commenting through my PS3, what with my computer being absolutely dead, and the buffer for stuff like this is damnedly small.

To sum up what I -would- normally say, though.. Uhm, professionalism wouldn't limit you from brushing off his commentary to his face and citing company policy, would it? Simple summary of what I mean:

JC: I don't like your shirt's color.
TF: Okay.
JC: You should stop wearing it.
TF: Why?

And.. Well, you can go from there. If you were to force him into a corner where he would be essentially telling you to do something that would be in violation of a protection offered by company policy, that wouldn't violate professionalism, I think. It strikes me that something like that would be more his vocalizing a violation of professional neutrality, thus allowing you to report his inappropriate behavior.

Just a suggestion I'm throwin' out there. Might've already come to you, but, well, it's there all the same. Best of luck, Trav.

[stepping_stones]

Sye! Long time, no see! Great to hear from you!

As for your reply, see my reply to those amazing tomatoes above. You're right, for the most part, but Jiminy actually said to me, "I won't lie to you, it's the color. Stop wearing it." The bald-faced effrontery of it kinda threw me for a loop, but I took it in stride, thinking that it wouldn't get to me and he couldn't do anything about it, anyway. Well, I was correct on the former, but incorrect on the latter. What's more, he shouldn't really be making these comments to me in the first place.

As for settling the matter with him, normally I would, but I don't know if I could keep my verbiage in check. If he defended his actions at all, I'd point out the blatant sexism of his original statement. If he tried to defend that, I'd be over his desk, he'd be out the window, and then I'd be out the door. Furthermore, I shouldn't be in such a position with my superiors in the first place, precisely because they're my superiors and that makes "normal communication" something of a

[firinn]

Always a pleasure, man. I may not comment all that much, but I generally enjoy reading your bloggin'.

I totally understand the worries of keeping oneself in check. If you can keep the presence of mind, though, it's best to try and just.. GEt into the dance with him.

Pull a verbal "Be like water." and flow around whatever he says, directing him to a specific region of speech that will either A) make him quit being a bigoted ass, or B) make him say something that'll cause him to lose his job. He is, after all, "superior" in title only. I don't mean this in blind flattery, but I'd be willing to say that in most any other circumstance between you and this dude, you'd have him trumped.

Or, y'know, you could go with what you were planning on doin'. Either way. *LOL*

As a side-note, I really gotta hook back up with you sometime and hang out, or call, or something. It's been a while, man, and t'was always fun.

Take it easy.

[cernunnos]

I have to say, I've sat through worse comedy routines.

Otherwise, yeah, that is one hell of an interesting situation you have there. I would comment further, but I pretty much agree that the course of actions you appear to be taking seems to be the best one.

[jose_chica13]

You could get a nice pink button-up shirt, comfy like your blue and white one and wear it over a black t-shirt. Then give Jiminy your best idiot grin every time you wear it and see him. This is just what I imagine you doing in my head. It makes me giggle.