But, Why Do You Do It? (1/3)
Title: But, Why Do You Do It?
Chapter: 1
Pairing: Sam/Jess, very slight Dean/Bella T
Rating: R (language and sexual discussion)
Author: klu_75
Disclaimer: They are not mine; if they were, I wouldn’t share.
Summary: 19-yr old Dean taught 15-yr old Sam: "It can be a beautiful act, but not everyone likes doing it or receiving it. If you do it or not, know WHY." Years later, Sam's mind was wandering after Jess did it to him... Dean tells his own reasons 'Why'. Three chapters, about 5,300 words total.
A/N: This starts just before Dean shows up at Stanford for Sam. It could be a month, could be a day. It doesn't really matter...
Sam held Jess as they basked in the afterglow of a great session of lovemaking. They'd been together almost two years and he knew what she liked. He knew how much pressure to put on her hips, how long to kiss her neck, when to breath in her ear and when to nibble on her bottom lip. She knew every one of his buttons to push too.
He replayed the evening activities; oral sex wasn't usually part of their program, but tonight she had blown him, it was amazing. His mind started to wander, it went back almost seven years to one of the most bizarre and honest conversations he ever had with his brother. He was fifteen and inexperienced, Dean had already begun his crusade to bang a chick in every town on his way to earning the title of Living Sex God…
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"Sammy I have somethin' important to say." Dean's voice was sincere and maybe a little pensive. "Come sit down at the table."
Sam eyed his big brother warily. He wasn't sure he wanted in this conversation. Dean was not the 'share your feelings' kind of guy and he certainly wasn't the 'sitdown for a talk' big brother.
"I'm reading."
"I'm serious. You need this talk. You need to know about… women."
"I know where babies come from, Dean. You've been showing me porn mags and telling me about your conquests for years."
Dean didn't smile or even smirk.
"Can it wait? I have homework." Sam looked across the crappy motel room. Dean just sat at the table; his eyes boring into Sam, waiting.
With a sigh Sam closed his book, got up and begrudgingly sat at the table.
"I don't want a diagram of something you did or to hear about how flexible the last cheerleader was."
"I learned something last night and you need to know it. I didn't know it, not really. I'm gonna haveta figure it out for myself and someday you will to."
"You had a date last night, right? So let me guess: she turned out to be a dude, and now you want to help me spot transvestites?"
"Sammy. This is important. It's about head, alright; oral sex."
Sam started to get up from the table "Dean I know about oral sex and I don't need to hear about your blowjob or carpet munching escapades."
Dean grabbed his arm. "We're not gonna talk about me, or you or any one person. Sammy, we're gonna talk about people and why they do it or don't. Why they want it or don't."
"I'm guessing people want it b'cause they like it and people do it because they like it and if they don't do it, then they don't like it." Sam sighed "Good talk, bro."
"Sam! Sam, sit down." Dean only called him Sam when he wanted to get his attention. He really didn't want to have this conversation, but if Dean was this adamant about it, then it was inevitable and he might as well get it over with. He sat back down.
"What?"
"OK with giving head there are four kinds of people, it's the same for men and women. So I'm a man and gonna talk like a man, but remember women feel this way too."
"Do I want to know how you learned this?"
"The woman I was with last night - don't roll your eyes - she was older, and we talked about it."
"You talked about… it? How do you know what she told you wasn't just about herself? Why do you think the theory applies to everyone?"
"I've been thinkin' about it all day an'… she's right. So shuddup and learn somethin'."
"OK." Sam rolled his eyes and decided learning 'why' was better than learning 'how'. He won't participate in a 'how' talk from Dean; he decided that right then and there.
"So the four kinds of people." Dean sighed and began his lecture. "The first kind absolutely will not give head, maybe they tried it an' didn't like it; maybe the basics just gross 'em out too much; I guess some religions say it's a no-no. Whatever their reason, they will not do it and no amount of beggin' will get 'em to change. Only a dick would badger a woman for a blowjob when she is adamant she does not do it. You can ask, but if the answer's no, let it go. There are plenty of other things you can do."
"That goes for women too? So... women ask for oral?"
"Getting head isn't just something to make men happy; a lot of women really like it too. They're just usually more emotional about it, an' stuff."
"I can't imagine why any person would feel that sex could have an emotional component." Sam was so sarcastic Dean thought he could hear his eyes rolling.
"Shuddup. Do you have any more legitimate comments or questions?"
"No."
"OK then, group two doesn't like it and would prefer to be part of group one. They would never give head at a one night stand; they have to be involved in a relationship, an' even then, it's maybe four times a year. Usually when they feel guilty about somethin', like maybe he does it because he feels guilty she gave him a blowjob... Oh he feels guilty b'cause he was a dick, you know, sayin' her pants look tight or checkin' out another woman right in front of her. Since they don't like doin' it, they don't put out a lot of effort and it's not that good for the person getting it."
"So why do it at all?"
"Since it's usually some kind of guilt behind it, they usually feel better about themselves, but their partner is only mildly satisfied, if at all. I think the partner probably just goes along hoping this time will be better."
"That's stupid. If I don't' want to and she gets nothing out of it..."
"That's why it's important to learn why you do it. If people are aware of their motivations for going down, they can make better choices about it."
"Dean, you do know that's true for everything in life, not just head, right?"
"Stop gettin' sappy, Francis." Dean groaned "No chick flick moments."
"Whatever."
"Group three: They don't really like it; but they do want to make their partner happy. Same thing applies about no one night stands... They're only going to do it if they're in a relationship. They do it out of love, or whatever, not guilt. To them, it doesn't really matter why they don't like doing it, they honestly really wanna make their partner happy."
"That sounds like a good compromise." Sam said.
"Right. If he isn't always begging, she's happy to give head to make him happy and she'll do a decent job of getting' him off. And if she's not nagging 'bout it, he'll have a fish taco once in a while b'cause he wants'ta pleasure her."
"Fish taco, Dean? Why do you have to be so crude?"
"I coulda said 'eat her out'…"
"You could have said 'perform oral'."
"Whatever. Ready to hear about group four?"
"Sure."
"Group four: likes doing it, loves doing it. They wanna go down and they can't wait to get your motor going. The thing is, they have to understand why they like it because their motives can be a turn off for some partners, so they need to be self-aware."
"How would it be a turn off is she wants it and he wants to do it?"
"Well let's say that you like to do it because you feel in complete control. Your partner might like feeling submissive, but maybe not. Another reason might be because you like knowing you're gonna get her off; that could be b'cause you want to please her, or you're feeding your own ego. Again, she might like that confidence, she might call it arrogance. Maybe you like to watch her, you know watch how she responds and when she orgasms; she might like bein' your entertainment or she could feel like a science experiment."
"So the same thing goes for getting head too, then?" Sam asked "She doesn't like it at all or she'll let you do it out of guilt and doesn't' really enjoy it, or she lets you do it out of love or she really likes it and wants you to do it. You should know why you like it or not, emotionally, not just physically." Sam said.
"Yeah. You gotta know yourself; ask these questions:
Do you like to go down?
If no, will you do it anyway, and why?
If you like givin' head, why?
Do you like gettin' it?
If no, will you let a lady go down on you anyway and why?
If you do like it, why?"
"Dean, why would a guy not like it? I mean. It sounds like it would be… great."
"Some guys think of their one and only as a delicate flower; they'd let a hooker blow 'em or a one night stand, but not a woman they cared about. Maybe a dude likes getting blown 'cuz the woman is on her knees and he likes the feeling of power. Some women like giving a blowjob b'cause she feels like she's in control of his everything when she's in control of his dick, she dominates him. That guy out lookin' to feel powerful wouldn't really like her blowjob, as much as one from a woman who wants to kneel, so to speak."
"This is a lot of feelings, especially for you, Dean."
"But Sammy, it's feelings about yourself, not love or anything.. And it's not how you feel about her as much as how you feel about oral sex in general. It's what I learned last night. We really talked about this." He sighed "She told me 'learn yourself then learn how to read women.' For one night stands, just pay attention. If you really wanna please a woman, watch her and if she likes it, she'll show you why.
If you're in a relationship, that's different. If she's a 'lemme suck your dick' gal but you were thinkin' she's your delicate flower, either change your mind or change hers. If you want to be dominated and so does she, either take turns or stop seein' her 'cuz you'll both end up frustrated. For a relationship, you should talk about your motivating feelings about sex, not just about each other. 'I love you' is not the same as 'I love that your blowjobs make me feel like you're submitting to me'. And how you feel about it isn't the same as giving directions like 'harder', 'faster' and 'suck'!" Dean's eyes took on a lewd glint and Sam knew any tact had left the conversation.
"OK, I think I've got it." Sam said "I'm going back to my homework."
"And 'I love you' isn't the same as 'I love eating you out because I love watching you heave and moan' or 'I love bein' dominated by you, please suck my cock like you own me'."
"Dean, now you're just being crude! Stop!"
"You might wanna hear a woman say 'when you eat my pussy you make me feel like I'm on stage and I want to perform a show called 'wriggle and moan' for you'."
"Enough!"
"Why do I bother? If you ever get laid, you're just gonna say how she completes you."
"Jerk."
"Bitch."
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Sam's focus shifted back to the beautiful blond in his arms. "Jess, I wanna talk about sex, specifically oral sex."
"Oh-Kaaay… Did I do something wrong tonight?"
"No, no no! I wanna talk about why you did it and why I liked it…"
A/N There will be three chapters, Sam and Jess discuss 'why' in the next one and Dean tells someone his own 'why' in the third one. Please review. I know it's complete, but I'd appreciate feedback. Seriously. I would appreciate some sort of response even if you say this sucked (no pun intended).
Chapter: 1
Pairing: Sam/Jess, very slight Dean/Bella T
Rating: R (language and sexual discussion)
Author: klu_75
Disclaimer: They are not mine; if they were, I wouldn’t share.
Summary: 19-yr old Dean taught 15-yr old Sam: "It can be a beautiful act, but not everyone likes doing it or receiving it. If you do it or not, know WHY." Years later, Sam's mind was wandering after Jess did it to him... Dean tells his own reasons 'Why'. Three chapters, about 5,300 words total.
A/N: This starts just before Dean shows up at Stanford for Sam. It could be a month, could be a day. It doesn't really matter...
Sam held Jess as they basked in the afterglow of a great session of lovemaking. They'd been together almost two years and he knew what she liked. He knew how much pressure to put on her hips, how long to kiss her neck, when to breath in her ear and when to nibble on her bottom lip. She knew every one of his buttons to push too.
He replayed the evening activities; oral sex wasn't usually part of their program, but tonight she had blown him, it was amazing. His mind started to wander, it went back almost seven years to one of the most bizarre and honest conversations he ever had with his brother. He was fifteen and inexperienced, Dean had already begun his crusade to bang a chick in every town on his way to earning the title of Living Sex God…
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"Sammy I have somethin' important to say." Dean's voice was sincere and maybe a little pensive. "Come sit down at the table."
Sam eyed his big brother warily. He wasn't sure he wanted in this conversation. Dean was not the 'share your feelings' kind of guy and he certainly wasn't the 'sitdown for a talk' big brother.
"I'm reading."
"I'm serious. You need this talk. You need to know about… women."
"I know where babies come from, Dean. You've been showing me porn mags and telling me about your conquests for years."
Dean didn't smile or even smirk.
"Can it wait? I have homework." Sam looked across the crappy motel room. Dean just sat at the table; his eyes boring into Sam, waiting.
With a sigh Sam closed his book, got up and begrudgingly sat at the table.
"I don't want a diagram of something you did or to hear about how flexible the last cheerleader was."
"I learned something last night and you need to know it. I didn't know it, not really. I'm gonna haveta figure it out for myself and someday you will to."
"You had a date last night, right? So let me guess: she turned out to be a dude, and now you want to help me spot transvestites?"
"Sammy. This is important. It's about head, alright; oral sex."
Sam started to get up from the table "Dean I know about oral sex and I don't need to hear about your blowjob or carpet munching escapades."
Dean grabbed his arm. "We're not gonna talk about me, or you or any one person. Sammy, we're gonna talk about people and why they do it or don't. Why they want it or don't."
"I'm guessing people want it b'cause they like it and people do it because they like it and if they don't do it, then they don't like it." Sam sighed "Good talk, bro."
"Sam! Sam, sit down." Dean only called him Sam when he wanted to get his attention. He really didn't want to have this conversation, but if Dean was this adamant about it, then it was inevitable and he might as well get it over with. He sat back down.
"What?"
"OK with giving head there are four kinds of people, it's the same for men and women. So I'm a man and gonna talk like a man, but remember women feel this way too."
"Do I want to know how you learned this?"
"The woman I was with last night - don't roll your eyes - she was older, and we talked about it."
"You talked about… it? How do you know what she told you wasn't just about herself? Why do you think the theory applies to everyone?"
"I've been thinkin' about it all day an'… she's right. So shuddup and learn somethin'."
"OK." Sam rolled his eyes and decided learning 'why' was better than learning 'how'. He won't participate in a 'how' talk from Dean; he decided that right then and there.
"So the four kinds of people." Dean sighed and began his lecture. "The first kind absolutely will not give head, maybe they tried it an' didn't like it; maybe the basics just gross 'em out too much; I guess some religions say it's a no-no. Whatever their reason, they will not do it and no amount of beggin' will get 'em to change. Only a dick would badger a woman for a blowjob when she is adamant she does not do it. You can ask, but if the answer's no, let it go. There are plenty of other things you can do."
"That goes for women too? So... women ask for oral?"
"Getting head isn't just something to make men happy; a lot of women really like it too. They're just usually more emotional about it, an' stuff."
"I can't imagine why any person would feel that sex could have an emotional component." Sam was so sarcastic Dean thought he could hear his eyes rolling.
"Shuddup. Do you have any more legitimate comments or questions?"
"No."
"OK then, group two doesn't like it and would prefer to be part of group one. They would never give head at a one night stand; they have to be involved in a relationship, an' even then, it's maybe four times a year. Usually when they feel guilty about somethin', like maybe he does it because he feels guilty she gave him a blowjob... Oh he feels guilty b'cause he was a dick, you know, sayin' her pants look tight or checkin' out another woman right in front of her. Since they don't like doin' it, they don't put out a lot of effort and it's not that good for the person getting it."
"So why do it at all?"
"Since it's usually some kind of guilt behind it, they usually feel better about themselves, but their partner is only mildly satisfied, if at all. I think the partner probably just goes along hoping this time will be better."
"That's stupid. If I don't' want to and she gets nothing out of it..."
"That's why it's important to learn why you do it. If people are aware of their motivations for going down, they can make better choices about it."
"Dean, you do know that's true for everything in life, not just head, right?"
"Stop gettin' sappy, Francis." Dean groaned "No chick flick moments."
"Whatever."
"Group three: They don't really like it; but they do want to make their partner happy. Same thing applies about no one night stands... They're only going to do it if they're in a relationship. They do it out of love, or whatever, not guilt. To them, it doesn't really matter why they don't like doing it, they honestly really wanna make their partner happy."
"That sounds like a good compromise." Sam said.
"Right. If he isn't always begging, she's happy to give head to make him happy and she'll do a decent job of getting' him off. And if she's not nagging 'bout it, he'll have a fish taco once in a while b'cause he wants'ta pleasure her."
"Fish taco, Dean? Why do you have to be so crude?"
"I coulda said 'eat her out'…"
"You could have said 'perform oral'."
"Whatever. Ready to hear about group four?"
"Sure."
"Group four: likes doing it, loves doing it. They wanna go down and they can't wait to get your motor going. The thing is, they have to understand why they like it because their motives can be a turn off for some partners, so they need to be self-aware."
"How would it be a turn off is she wants it and he wants to do it?"
"Well let's say that you like to do it because you feel in complete control. Your partner might like feeling submissive, but maybe not. Another reason might be because you like knowing you're gonna get her off; that could be b'cause you want to please her, or you're feeding your own ego. Again, she might like that confidence, she might call it arrogance. Maybe you like to watch her, you know watch how she responds and when she orgasms; she might like bein' your entertainment or she could feel like a science experiment."
"So the same thing goes for getting head too, then?" Sam asked "She doesn't like it at all or she'll let you do it out of guilt and doesn't' really enjoy it, or she lets you do it out of love or she really likes it and wants you to do it. You should know why you like it or not, emotionally, not just physically." Sam said.
"Yeah. You gotta know yourself; ask these questions:
Do you like to go down?
If no, will you do it anyway, and why?
If you like givin' head, why?
Do you like gettin' it?
If no, will you let a lady go down on you anyway and why?
If you do like it, why?"
"Dean, why would a guy not like it? I mean. It sounds like it would be… great."
"Some guys think of their one and only as a delicate flower; they'd let a hooker blow 'em or a one night stand, but not a woman they cared about. Maybe a dude likes getting blown 'cuz the woman is on her knees and he likes the feeling of power. Some women like giving a blowjob b'cause she feels like she's in control of his everything when she's in control of his dick, she dominates him. That guy out lookin' to feel powerful wouldn't really like her blowjob, as much as one from a woman who wants to kneel, so to speak."
"This is a lot of feelings, especially for you, Dean."
"But Sammy, it's feelings about yourself, not love or anything.. And it's not how you feel about her as much as how you feel about oral sex in general. It's what I learned last night. We really talked about this." He sighed "She told me 'learn yourself then learn how to read women.' For one night stands, just pay attention. If you really wanna please a woman, watch her and if she likes it, she'll show you why.
If you're in a relationship, that's different. If she's a 'lemme suck your dick' gal but you were thinkin' she's your delicate flower, either change your mind or change hers. If you want to be dominated and so does she, either take turns or stop seein' her 'cuz you'll both end up frustrated. For a relationship, you should talk about your motivating feelings about sex, not just about each other. 'I love you' is not the same as 'I love that your blowjobs make me feel like you're submitting to me'. And how you feel about it isn't the same as giving directions like 'harder', 'faster' and 'suck'!" Dean's eyes took on a lewd glint and Sam knew any tact had left the conversation.
"OK, I think I've got it." Sam said "I'm going back to my homework."
"And 'I love you' isn't the same as 'I love eating you out because I love watching you heave and moan' or 'I love bein' dominated by you, please suck my cock like you own me'."
"Dean, now you're just being crude! Stop!"
"You might wanna hear a woman say 'when you eat my pussy you make me feel like I'm on stage and I want to perform a show called 'wriggle and moan' for you'."
"Enough!"
"Why do I bother? If you ever get laid, you're just gonna say how she completes you."
"Jerk."
"Bitch."
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Sam's focus shifted back to the beautiful blond in his arms. "Jess, I wanna talk about sex, specifically oral sex."
"Oh-Kaaay… Did I do something wrong tonight?"
"No, no no! I wanna talk about why you did it and why I liked it…"
A/N There will be three chapters, Sam and Jess discuss 'why' in the next one and Dean tells someone his own 'why' in the third one. Please review. I know it's complete, but I'd appreciate feedback. Seriously. I would appreciate some sort of response even if you say this sucked (no pun intended).