seriously though, i think that's probably it. boys don't think about that sort of thing...unless they're gay. that's a bad generalization, but take it as a good thing. you've got a straight and normal boy who seems to love you.
i'm sure he misses you, but to admit that to you would mean that he'd have to admit that to himself and then he'd have to admit that *gasp* he's got emotions and... that's just not part of most guys' agenda.
hearts to you, rose. cheer up. you know he loves you. maybe he's a little distant because he really misses you too and doesn't want you to worry about him? just a possibility...
:) Thanks for your thoughts and encouragement. I know what you mean. He's not a very chatty person anyway, so it's nothing new for him to be somewhat quiet in a phone conversation. I guess I just get used to him being somewhat attentive to me (especially during and the the times surrounding our visits) to where when he actually acts like a typical guy, I start freaking out. Haha. I know he loves me, but my own insecurities like to rear their ugly heads when he and I go through phases of our relationship like this one. It's hard dealing with memories and worrying that the past will repeat itself. Heck, I'm scared to even check my e-mail anymore, since my ex broke up with me once via e-mail, and now I've learned that Phillip seems to communicate a bit more easily through e-mail.
Anyway, I know I probably just need to wait things out and not think about it so much. :P I'm a girl, what can I say. It's true, the generalisations that are made about guys and girls, though, and you've definitely got a good point!
The guy phrase "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" Comes to mind. Maybe he thinks you calling is normal and everything is peachy. -shrug- I think it's easy for one half of a couple to start taking the other for granted when they're not working at it real hard but things still seem to be rolling along smoothly. Maybe you could just say that you're not going to be able to call as easily in the future because you're going to be really busy, but you'd still like to talk to him often. And make sure you stroke his ego by telling him you need him to call you, to make sure you're surviving your new work schedule! -wink- That will let him know you need him to call you, AND make it sound like he's being your hero at the same time. Just suggestions. But don't worry. There might be tons of reasons why he's not as chatty as before. My husband and I sometimes aren't really chatty, and it's not because things are going wrong, but just because... hehe There's nothing to talk about that day!
Hope this helps (from JoelOsteen.com): Refuse to worry!kingwein22February 28 2007, 17:43:26 UTC
"Who of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?" (Matthew 6:27)
Worrying gives the devil the opportunity to move, just like worship gives God the opportunity to move. Worrying means to play the enemy's lies in your mind, over and over again. God promises in Isaiah 26:3 that He will keep us in perfect peace when we keep our minds stayed on Him. So when the opportunity to worry comes, use it as a reminder to worship the Lord and thank Him for His good and precious promises! Cast all of your cares on the Lord, because He cares for you! A Prayer for Today
God, I am weary from worrying. Please help me to stop the soundtrack of needless worry that plays over and over again in my head. I want to place my fears and concerns in Your hands and live in peace knowing that You will fulfill all of your precious promises to me. In Jesus' name - Amen.
No matter how great it ever is, it's still a long distance relationship, and those always, always suck.
I always tried to really, really keep myself occupied with other things, or to do something for my boyfriend-at-the-time whenever I wondered why he wasn't calling -- write part of a letter, make him a card, something like that. Then I could acknowledge to myself that it was WORK and the only person I could be responsible for was myself. And it was a reminder that things really were better when we were together.
Of course we broke up but not until we lived in the same town again for a year and a half. So that's no measure to go by!
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he's a boy though. boys are silly. durr :-P
seriously though, i think that's probably it. boys don't think about that sort of thing...unless they're gay. that's a bad generalization, but take it as a good thing. you've got a straight and normal boy who seems to love you.
i'm sure he misses you, but to admit that to you would mean that he'd have to admit that to himself and then he'd have to admit that *gasp* he's got emotions and... that's just not part of most guys' agenda.
hearts to you, rose. cheer up. you know he loves you. maybe he's a little distant because he really misses you too and doesn't want you to worry about him? just a possibility...
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Anyway, I know I probably just need to wait things out and not think about it so much. :P I'm a girl, what can I say. It's true, the generalisations that are made about guys and girls, though, and you've definitely got a good point!
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Maybe he thinks you calling is normal and everything is peachy. -shrug-
I think it's easy for one half of a couple to start taking the other for granted when they're not working at it real hard but things still seem to be rolling along smoothly.
Maybe you could just say that you're not going to be able to call as easily in the future because you're going to be really busy, but you'd still like to talk to him often. And make sure you stroke his ego by telling him you need him to call you, to make sure you're surviving your new work schedule! -wink-
That will let him know you need him to call you, AND make it sound like he's being your hero at the same time.
Just suggestions.
But don't worry. There might be tons of reasons why he's not as chatty as before. My husband and I sometimes aren't really chatty, and it's not because things are going wrong, but just because... hehe There's nothing to talk about that day!
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Worrying gives the devil the opportunity to move, just like worship gives God the opportunity to move. Worrying means to play the enemy's lies in your mind, over and over again. God promises in Isaiah 26:3 that He will keep us in perfect peace when we keep our minds stayed on Him. So when the opportunity to worry comes, use it as a reminder to worship the Lord and thank Him for His good and precious promises! Cast all of your cares on the Lord, because He cares for you!
A Prayer for Today
God, I am weary from worrying. Please help me to stop the soundtrack of needless worry that plays over and over again in my head. I want to place my fears and concerns in Your hands and live in peace knowing that You will fulfill all of your precious promises to me. In Jesus' name - Amen.
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I always tried to really, really keep myself occupied with other things, or to do something for my boyfriend-at-the-time whenever I wondered why he wasn't calling -- write part of a letter, make him a card, something like that. Then I could acknowledge to myself that it was WORK and the only person I could be responsible for was myself. And it was a reminder that things really were better when we were together.
Of course we broke up but not until we lived in the same town again for a year and a half. So that's no measure to go by!
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