The Affair of the Necklace

[spectralbovine]

So my grandmother, who art in India, consulted a psychic or priest or something, and he said that I have some sort of bad juju related to Thursdays that has been keeping me from finding a wife. He blessed a locket that was supposed to unblock my chi or something, and my grandmother mailed it to California, and my aunt provided a gold chain to turn

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[spectralbovine]

I appreciate the advice from someone who's been there. I was already going to suggest that I just keep the necklace in my pocket, although I don't even want to go down and get the stupid thing.

Everything you say sounds very familiar, though.

[lembeau]

Oh, Sunil. *HUGS*

I can't sit down and write the response that I want right now, but I will as soon as I can. But you and me, baby, we're peas in the same freaking pod boat.

[ebongreen]

Wow. Incoming emotional blackmail much?

I'm glad they love you, but this is Loving Too Much which becomes Trying to Run Your Life For You. You're not five or fifteen anymore - you're an adult and deserve to be treated with respect and the expectation of independence. FWIW, I applaud and hope you maintain your boundaries - and I know it's hard to do. :-(

[scifantasy]

Good lord. Even by the high standards of awful guilt trips, this is exceptionally disgusting.

Sympathies, man. You're right, it's absolutely not fair to you. You can't let them win, because it'll never stop if you do; and if they can't let you win, if they can't understand that you need a life of your own, that's something they need to confront.

It's probably bad form to quote this--you're facing real life, not a novel--but it's what came to mind...

"You can't make them--whoever your particular them is--do anything, really. Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste...years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay. If only you do enough, if only you are good enough. No. You have to just...take it. Give it to yourself, I suppose. Say, I'm sorry you feel like that, and walk away. But that's hard."
--Ekaterin Vorsoisson, in Lois Bujold's A Civil Campaign

[spectralbovine]

That's a very good quote.

[scifantasy]

It is. Like I said, real life is more complicated than that, but the point is there.

[pseudo_tsuga]

Just chiming to say what a good quote that is (and how much I need to remember it).

[spectralbovine]

Are your parents this hard on your brother and sister? Is your sister the only one still at home?
My sister is at home, and I'm the oldest, so all the marriage-attention is on me.

I'm assuming you never went to church growing up, so I'm thinking The Lord's Prayer must show up a lot more often in movies and TV than I realized.
Yep.