Ah. Mah. Gah., guys are SO frustrating. I'm sorry, chickadee.
I definitely say confront him. Having him say he's not into you now can't possibly be any worse than having him say it later - when you're not expecting it. Definitely get it out in the open.
Did you ever tell him that the guy is GAY and your comment meant nothing? Arrrh, that would drive me nuts.
Keep us updated pleeease. =) And good luck, you so deserve a great guy.
I agree. It would be better to know now that he's not into me, than him tell me in a month when I've fallen even deeper for him. It's just so hard.. and I so dont want to hear it, hence the avoidance.
I told him Daniel is totally gay right after I made the comment. I still can't believe he got so worked up over it, especially after I explained myself and the whole background story. But whatev.
Thanks for saying I deserve a good guy.. I'm starting to think the problem is with me, considering all the bad luck I've had with men lately.. so any positive reinforcement helps ;)
Don't overanalyze (easier said than done I know lol) but if he is a self admitted commitment freak then you just need to roll with the flow. I would tell him that he doesn't have to come over, but that you'll be sad especially since you go out to see him all the time, but you'd understand (understanding is BIG with guys who are a commitphobes), but DON'T offer to go to him for a day. Don't give him too much. I know you want to talk, but just act relaxed about it all and when you see him next talk then if he is still being freaky. Just, tell him that if he doesn't come over that you will totally be sad because you miss him etc
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Ha, Jay tells me all the time "Stop thinking so much!" but like you said, easier said than done! I can't help it. I want to just have fun and enjoy it like I usually do, but for some reason this time I cant. That tells me that this guy must really be special.
I think you're 100% right about his internal battles. I was thinking the same thing, that perhaps he had an ex cheat or something.
Don't appologize for advice!! I love it, and welcome it! I need all the advice I can get at this point. :)
Girl, don't chase after him, you have to make him come to you. I'd just let him sit home if he doesn't want to come see you, maybe he'll surprise you and end up coming. I dunno, just my opinion, but it's easier for someone else to give advice when they're not in the situation. I guess just go with whatever your heart is telling you!
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I definitely say confront him. Having him say he's not into you now can't possibly be any worse than having him say it later - when you're not expecting it. Definitely get it out in the open.
Did you ever tell him that the guy is GAY and your comment meant nothing? Arrrh, that would drive me nuts.
Keep us updated pleeease. =) And good luck, you so deserve a great guy.
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I told him Daniel is totally gay right after I made the comment. I still can't believe he got so worked up over it, especially after I explained myself and the whole background story. But whatev.
Thanks for saying I deserve a good guy.. I'm starting to think the problem is with me, considering all the bad luck I've had with men lately.. so any positive reinforcement helps ;)
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I think you're 100% right about his internal battles. I was thinking the same thing, that perhaps he had an ex cheat or something.
Don't appologize for advice!! I love it, and welcome it! I need all the advice I can get at this point. :)
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