Question of the Day

[sparrow107]

if someone you considered a friend said something mean to you and then apologized, would you forgive them

Comments

[icyspook]

it depends a lot on how close a friend they are. my boy could get away with saying almost anything, and any form of apology. other people i'd judge more harshly.

[gokidfears]

I was just in a similar situation. A friend of 20 years said something to the effect of "Dear God you and WoGKF can't have kids. They need a father" and I am still hurt even though an apology was rendered. I think you need time to heal and ponder the meaning of the friendship. I know I will eventually forgive my friend, but am not ready yet.

[sparrow107]

hmmm. I respect your opinion. check out my entries from 10/06.

[gokidfears]

OK, clearly I am a freakshow still figuring out this LJ stuff...just found how to read all your entries and not just from my friends page *blushing*

Now, I can see your point and don't think I would be OK with this friend for a long while, if at all. Sounds like they don't listen to who you are and how you are growing in life...I, too, with some same issues, would not only be mortified, but also pissed off.

*hugs* for strength to get through this...but *jumps for joy* for Saturday's show!!!

[zekejojo]

A lot of it depends on how much the person meant to you before the incident. And whether you honestly think there's a chance the person will change. And maybe a little bit about how much you're going to have to interact with the person in the future. I mean, it's not as if you can avoid this person. It would be nice if it weren't bickering. But maybe you can be acquaintance-friends but not close friends? *shrug*

[sejarez318]

You know how I feel already. I'm into forgiveness but not until the other person understands and ackwowledges what they did. Otherwise, you are just in for hard times. It will be pretty uncomfortable at shows though, if you don't work it out. I'd go for peaceful coexistence..

[sparrow107]

i think sometimes we say stuff that comes from our own insecurities that we don't neccessarily mean.