Saying the obviousmage67October 5 2003, 20:38:56 UTC
Love is obviously very personal. It involves a touch of self-delusion and also the right external stimuli.
From what I've observed, most people don't fall in love and will settle for someone. Many delude themselves they are in love because they're in love with the idea of love. Many actually find someone they truly and really love at first, but then later it changes in someway.
From what I've seen if you see someone and you feel something it's almost always lust, desire or someone you believe to be coming close to what you think is your ideal. Love at first sight is a rarity and not to be expected.
Perhaps you will be one of those rare people who will find her so-called soulmate and be extremely happy with him. Even if that happens, it almost certainly won't solve all your problems.
The Beatles were wrong. All you need is not only love.
I feel your confusion. And I stand by my fairly-recent epiphany: True love is made, not found. Fate will bring us the initial contact/connection, then we have to do the rest.
I dont know what love is. I'm not sure if it even exists, and I agree with you to some extent. There is no love at first site, theres very little true love in the world. I've never seen any two people with that. A lot of time it is shrouded by lust and self-interest, having someone being with you. There's no 'one', no soulmates.... People just kinda find the person they can deal with and cling to each other and hope to make some meaning out of this really confusing world. Love is getting something from a pathetic existence, in which everything fades. People can care about each other immensely, but ultimately love is overrated.
And then there's those of us who never felt lonely to begin with.
Why not be love? Love's not some fairy tale "happily ever after." I find it easy to love people at first, but the more I get to know them, the harder it is to love them. It's work. I have to keep making it work, and I can't let myself become disillusioned by the things I find that irk me.
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From what I've observed, most people don't fall in love and will settle for someone. Many delude themselves they are in love because they're in love with the idea of love. Many actually find someone they truly and really love at first, but then later it changes in someway.
From what I've seen if you see someone and you feel something it's almost always lust, desire or someone you believe to be coming close to what you think is your ideal. Love at first sight is a rarity and not to be expected.
Perhaps you will be one of those rare people who will find her so-called soulmate and be extremely happy with him. Even if that happens, it almost certainly won't solve all your problems.
The Beatles were wrong. All you need is not only love.
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Why not be love? Love's not some fairy tale "happily ever after." I find it easy to love people at first, but the more I get to know them, the harder it is to love them. It's work. I have to keep making it work, and I can't let myself become disillusioned by the things I find that irk me.
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I myself believe in it, despite all phyiscal and neurological evidence to the contrary.
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