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[sombraro]

I had a missed call during the pubcrawl yesterday from my parents place. Being smashed and smiling I didn’t think to return the call.

Received a call from them again this afternoon. It turns out my mothers mum passed away early this week after a few years bout with cancer.

I didn’t know this woman well at all. As with all relatives outside my

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my 2 cents worth

[sae_ra]

your mum would appreciate it if you went. even if you didn't know your mum's mum you should go to support your mum.

[ctudball]

Funerals aren't for the dead. Funerals are for the living.

[trentiusmaximus]

Short, simple, true.
Well said.

[reckless_dayz]

I went to a funeral on Monday myself for a relative. The circumstances they dieds in were not pleasant, and I did not have much in common with the relatives left behind- But I went along with my mother and sister for mainly 2 reasons. To respect the passing of a human that had once been part of my life, and because I knew my mother wanted me to go. And even though my a lot of my other relatives werent there, and it wasnt a pleasant experience.... Im glad I went, even if it was mainly to satisfy my mums wishes while grieving.
In short mate- we all have reasons for and not going, but it comes down to which is more important.

Keepin' it relative my friend.

[shallow_blaze]

I have only ever experienced this sort of dilemma once, last year with Oma. Because my mum was so far away she needed our support to help her through her time of trial. Maybe if you are uncertain about going but still want to pay respects you could peak with your mother and see if she would like your arm to lean on.

You would still be paying your respect to a woman who was part of your family even though you didn't see her much. At the same time you would be easing the hardship for your mother and in turn making her a little more comfortable with the situation.

Whatever you feel is right could very well be the way to do this. Just talk with your immediate family (when appropriate of course) and see if they would like your friendly familiar face to help them through this.

[kingquaboo]

My mothers step mum died early last year and i found myself in a similar position. In fact, not to speak ill of the dead, but i was definately not a fan of the woman. My mother was neglected by her step mum for most of her life and was only contacted by her when she found out her cancer was terminal. The reason i and my brothers attended was purely for my mothers benefit. I had no idea what to expect and felt in no way uncomfortable while i was there, and i couldn't even remember the woman's name at the time. Because of the isolation my mother had from her family i was not sure what to expect from her on the day, but i know that she appreciated me being there, and not just because she told me so, but as you said, "she's still mum's mum" and it did affect her.

In short, i am glad i attended simply to be there for my mother, and in my opinion you should too.

Hope this helps mate
- Kingy