How to Offend Everyone in One Simple Article

[smurasaki]

This was so ungodly annoying and offensive that I had to rant about it.

Lori Gottlieb's Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough in the March issue of Atlantic Monthly is the most offensive writing on relationships that I've encountered since The Rules.  Not many people can write something that is  so thouroughly offensive to both men

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[shininghalf]

Okay, depression, I've been there. Terrorism and comas, sounds interesting! Rude to waiters, you're gone. Jerk.

Plumber, Park Ranger, Helicopter Nurse? Damn, I'd hate to see what her "picky" looks like! "Well, you haven't been nominated for a 'Best Actor' Oscar, I'm afraid you don't make the cut..."

I think I heard a pling off a good point she baaaaaaarely nicked an edge of (okay maybe it was just her vapor trail that nicked it), which is that being madly in love isn't the best requisite for marriage, being as you are somewhat off your head. Personally, though, I say no one should settle for less than a very good friend.

But suffice to say, yes, this all sounds deeply deeply revolting.

[smurasaki]

Yep, she almost touched on a couple of good points...almost. One should be careful of having idiotic expectations for your idea person and, no, madly in love (or lust...they do get confused) isn't enough on its own for marriage. Judging from my parents, love (with a side of lust) and being good friends seems to make for a very, very good marriage.

Of course, all of that requires viewing people as something other than convenient chairs.

[shininghalf]

love (with a side of lust) and being good friends seems to make for a very, very good marriage.

::fangirl quotient at critical:: I've got some Harry Potter slash in my a/u that would suggest the same. ^____^

[smurasaki]

Maybe if enough of the blogosphere rants about it, word will reach the clueless, witless woman. Though whether she'll grasp her own stupidity or not is another question. :(

[smurasaki]

Courtship system? What century is this? The people I know who are married met their spouses over shared interests (mainly sci-fi and RPGs and other geekly pursuits...I wonder what these authors would make of that). And most of the single people I know are quite happy. Even the ones who are looking for significant others aren't panicking like these idiots

[marag]

I already have a headache, so I think I'll avoid this idiot like the plague, thankyewvery much. Arg.

Just remember: You're nothing without a man!

::headdesk::

[smurasaki]

And any man, at that. Blech.

[jinnayah]

You know, I feel sorry for her. Metaphorically speaking, she has no soul. How sad must her life be that her goal is not "love", or even "mutual respect and admiration", but rather "warm male body". And there's some interesting double-think, too, such as "what she really wants is a husband (and, by extension, a child)" -- from a woman who had a child via artificial insemination! She of all people should know that a husband is optional in the child department. And then there's the assumption that all women want children. And I notice we're just not talking about people who can't have them.
Pitiable. What a sad sad life she must have. I feel sorry for her child. ... (OK, I'll admit it. I also feel sorry that she was allowed to reproduce.)

[smurasaki]

People who can't have children, another group she offends by omission. Ah, yes, I knew I'd forgotten something.

And, yes, her poor, poor child. Growing up with that as a parent. Never mind what lump of manflesh she eventually decides to settle for. Can we have her child taken away? Please?

Oh wow

[bellatrys]

I'm going to have to post about this, I see, from the point of view of the voiceless and totally-unimportant KID in the story, since it turns out that's EXACTLY what my mother did and guess what, the misogynist narcissist she "settled" for went on to psychologically and violently abuse me and all my subsequent siblings, and her, for the rest of her life, and has left all of us scarred for life (and not just metaphorically either), some of us trying desperately not to damage others, others rationalizing it away and carrying on the Patriarchy to validate their own abuse

Re: Oh wow

[smurasaki]

Perhaps you should write to her. A little dose of reality might do her some good.

As for your childhood... *hug*