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[skinartia]

The following opinions expressed in this blog are not directed at any one person. They are not meant to offend. This is, after all, a journal which is defined as "(a) personal record of occurrences, experiences, and reflections kept on a regular basis".I'm so irritated/overwhelmed by the amount of friends/acquaintances who are now pregnant or

Comments

[edgreyshadow]

I can see where you're coming from. In my case, however, I gotta say that I don't think my financial picture has changed all that much - I never really had much money. But yeah, kids do take a lot of attention. In Jamie and my case, we are now both working. Before, one or the other could go out and still have the other person to do housework, cook, clean, or what-have-you. Now, whoever's not cooking/cleaning/what-have-you is watching the kid. I could go out more often than I do. So could Jamie. Personally, I don't think it'd be fair to her to leave her saddled with all the kids two or three nights a week. And I appreciate that she does the same for me

[skinartia]

You make some good points. I think a lot of parents, especially first-time parents, forget that they need adult time and that other people are just as capable to look after their baby as they are. I think they feel guilty going out to do something enjoyable that doesn't involve the kid. I also do think that some of them believe no one is good enough/qualified enough to look after their baby (I've seen that a time or two). So, yeah, then they become really worn down and by that point they've likely irked a few friends/family.

[josh5674]

I think in our case, the only thing that has suffered is our outings together. I still have a pretty active going-out life, as does Primrose, but we do have to decline a few invites, or argue over which of us gets to go solo. We both work and are lucky to have family who will watch Jericho during the day, but then we've used them during the day and can't get evening care. It's a balance, but I don't think anything has suffered majorly. I feel lucky, though, becuase I've seen a lot of what you're describing, people who only go out for family stuff, and if they can't bring the kid they don't go. Their loss.

[skinartia]

I have noticed that you and Prim seem to have a healthy balance. I think, and am probably wrong, that dads have it "easier" in that they don't seem to have to watch the kid(s) as often as moms. That could be a self-imposed burden by moms because they would feel bad about going out and enjoying themselves.