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[sistahjustice]

can I just say how tired I am of being blamed for everything that has gone bad in peoples lives, today my fiancee' basically blamed me for all of the crap going on in the apartment. Apparently I am responsible for Melissa moving out with katie, and us eventually having to move because of it. I am supposed to apologize for kicking katie out when

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Responsibility

[jasminepearls]

I am sorry that you feel you are being blamed for everything, however...I feel that it is very manipulative to make someone feel that they have to kick a person out for the sole reason that you cannot live with a girl, and then when things turn sour and you are against a wall financially or otherwise, asking that same person you could not live with to move back in. I guess I just do not understand the reasoning behind that. The only thing I can think of is that you would be asking me to move back out of desparation, and to save yourself from a situation that frankly, you did play a large part in the decomposition of. Melissa passed it on that you wanted me to move back in...of course, that is absolutely not going to happen, but think about it, how would things be different? What would change? If I have not made all of the necessary changes as a person that you wanted me to make, and I would still be made to feel like crap for being antisocial or whatever I was doing, why would I want to put myself back into that situation? I would

Re: Responsibility

[sistahjustice]

ok first of all, any issues that I had with you , were not issues that I alone had, keep in mind melissa kicked you out also, my issues were with your sloppiness and your lackadaisacal attitude about household amenities, I had a problem with unwillingness to not waste energy that we could ill afford, I asked you repeatedly, as did Melissa not to run the washer as much as you did, did you listen? no you did not, yes I asked you to leave because I didn't have any kids and I didn't think I should have to run behind you to clean up like you were a kid, we asked you to help out you cleaned for a couple days and then nothing. Keep in mind that I don't have anything personally against you, never did, as far a making you uncomfortable, I seem to remember you bringing 4 or 5 strangers into the home and making it uncomfortable for us. Anyway, this was not written to point fingers , this was written to let you know that I would like the opportunity to make amends, it seems to me that we are all having a hard time of it financially and

[jasminepearls]

It's just...strange...because everything that I was blamed for...especially extra utility usage...well, it seems that has become even more of a problem since I moved out. All I am trying to get across is that if it was my actions that got me kicked out, why want me back in? I know that it was almost solely your decision to ask me to leave, and that is not on my assumption alone. I did and do apologize for using lots of water, I have it down to 1 load a week now (having to wait 2 hours and go out in the frozen ass air helps with that)I do hope that new opportunities arise for you to get into a better living situation. As far as I know, nobody else had any problems with me being lazy or not cleaning up when I used the kitchen once a week, and I have talked with the people most involved. I never wanted you to be my mother, and if you played that role, I regret that becasue I was never aware that you needed to. But, I digress, that is the past...

[sistahjustice]

FYI, I asked Melissa, when we first talked about kicking you out, if she was ok with the decision, she said yes, but I also told her that if she wasn't I would abide by that decision, she again said she was for the decision, as far as talking to the people directly involved that is not possible because you have not talked to me about it. If, however you are talking about jesse, he was not in the decision making process, but if the truth be known, he was all for it. You cannot deny that everything that I told you about my reasons for wanting you out, were not clear, I told you the same things when we were downstairs and nothing changed. but that is water under the bridge, the only reason that I asked you to move in again was because Sean asked me to ask , I don't think you and I should ever llive together again, at least not in the same house , the same state , yeah but never in the same domicile. I did , however wiish to mend fences as far as building a friendship, I no longer have any issues with you and how you go about the