i kind of tried that a couple years ago with my best guy friend. We were best friends but had different friend groups. Once we slept together it was all over. We both became distant because we both do that in relationships once we've started sleeping with our s/o. Even though we knew this about each other ebfore getting involved, it just made it all the weirded because we thought that knowing things like that about each other would ultimately prevent them from happening. It didn't. And now 2 years later, we're just starting to rebuild our friendship.
yes, it can be ok. i was best friends with james for about 3 years before we started dating. and it was not smooth sailing, but it did work out and now we're married.
but before him i dated a best friend and after a huge messy breakup we dont speak anymore.
so...yeah. i dont have anything constructive to say. dont write off dating someone because you dont want to ruin the best friend status, and on the flip side dont think that dating your best friend holds the answer.
oh here. have a flower and forget i said anything. ---<---(@
and i've realized i broke two rules with this relationship. not only did i date a best friend, but he was also another best friend's ex. 0_o this cause for a very rough begining. but i dont regret a damn thing.
I dated my best friend and, let's see, I haven't said anything nice about him in...over 4 years. It was that bad when it all fell apart.
I agree with ~mike~. But then again, I've had one of those "SO as best friend" relationships explode on me too. So what do I know?
Then again, I also have a good friend (not necessarily best, but one of my oldest) who I nearly slept with, and it's not awkward now. I'm not sure it would be even if we had. Maybe the next day, but now? Meh. We kinda treat it as an inside joke at this point.
So my real point is I think it varies from person to person and relationship to relationship, and maybe even by the stage of your life, too.
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Or maybe Dr. Laura. Either way, I'll make oodles of money. (And with a J.D., I will /technically/ have a doctorate.)
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yes, it can be ok. i was best friends with james for about 3 years before we started dating. and it was not smooth sailing, but it did work out and now we're married.
but before him i dated a best friend and after a huge messy breakup we dont speak anymore.
so...yeah. i dont have anything constructive to say. dont write off dating someone because you dont want to ruin the best friend status, and on the flip side dont think that dating your best friend holds the answer.
oh here. have a flower and forget i said anything. ---<---(@
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best. ending line. ever. everrrrrrrrrrr.
how's married life treating you?
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and i've realized i broke two rules with this relationship. not only did i date a best friend, but he was also another best friend's ex. 0_o
this cause for a very rough begining. but i dont regret a damn thing.
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I agree with ~mike~. But then again, I've had one of those "SO as best friend" relationships explode on me too. So what do I know?
Then again, I also have a good friend (not necessarily best, but one of my oldest) who I nearly slept with, and it's not awkward now. I'm not sure it would be even if we had. Maybe the next day, but now? Meh. We kinda treat it as an inside joke at this point.
So my real point is I think it varies from person to person and relationship to relationship, and maybe even by the stage of your life, too.
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i think expectations have to be made VERY clear from the get-go.
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