Some people use core, a lot don't. We use original, but that doesn't work for some people. Call her what she was to you.
I cope with it by shrugging, saying "Your belief does not affect reality." and then ignoring them. If they seem more open to the idea then I might try to explain that in fact that is not the only available option about multiples, but if people are stubborn, I try to let it slide off as best I can.
We got that from our new therapist a few weeks ago. He only wants to talk to me, the others are just pieces of me, just metaphors and as I make friends in the real world, I'll move on and won't need them anymore. I asked him if he'd done any research on multiplicity and he said no, so I told him he'd better do that.
I'm not the first one here either. God knows why he wants to talk to /me/. I'm just the one fronting a lot.
Anyway, Marissa (one of the others) was listening in in therapy (I'd told her she could) and she was really insulted by the insinuation that she isn't real and she posted to my journal about it later and she got a lot of support from my online friends who are willing to see her as the very real person she is.
Marissa's current perspective is "well then I'll just keep away from where my presence isn't wanted."
It's hard. But it helps if there are other voices from outside the body saying "yes, you are real"
> How have all of you dealt with people with this outlook?
i have embraced it, just as i have embraced all things i have been called with derogatory intent. once you make something yours, it can no longer hurt you. be imaginary, be fantastic - to be unbound by the constraints of existence is a grand thing.
When it all comes down to it, what difference does it make if you tell people or if they believe you. Kim went crazy on line wanting to talk about me because like most girls she wants to talk about her life, and can't find anyone in her actual life that wants to hear it. I said we had to tell her husband, and she felt she had to tell her oldest daughter. Other than that I don't think we have to talk about it
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I cope with it by shrugging, saying "Your belief does not affect reality." and then ignoring them. If they seem more open to the idea then I might try to explain that in fact that is not the only available option about multiples, but if people are stubborn, I try to let it slide off as best I can.
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I'm not the first one here either. God knows why he wants to talk to /me/. I'm just the one fronting a lot.
Anyway, Marissa (one of the others) was listening in in therapy (I'd told her she could) and she was really insulted by the insinuation that she isn't real and she posted to my journal about it later and she got a lot of support from my online friends who are willing to see her as the very real person she is.
Marissa's current perspective is "well then I'll just keep away from where my presence isn't wanted."
It's hard. But it helps if there are other voices from outside the body saying "yes, you are real"
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i have embraced it, just as i have embraced all things i have been called with derogatory intent. once you make something yours, it can no longer hurt you. be imaginary, be fantastic - to be unbound by the constraints of existence is a grand thing.
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nothing to say, except that I liked this very much <3
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