Step I/Question VIII: How has the abuse affected how you function sexually? (TW)

[freyjalee]

Trigger Warning

Thank goodness it doesn't affect me the way it use to!!!

There use to be a lot of shame around sex/masturbation.  A lot of the sex I had was for the other person, not for myself.  Even if I wanted to be sexual as well, once we started, it was as if I removed myself from it and just went through the motions of whatever the other

Comments

[llomf]

I think that's wonderful that you have come to a place where you are able to enjoy that facet of life! I identify with many of the things that you said, including being numb, having sex being for the other person, being promiscuous. I am very happy for you for the recovery that you've made in that area! Blessings

[violetsolas]

You explained this perfectly. I'm still working on being comfortable. I've been married for 5 years and it's still hard.