My costume says I'm a whore...

[shrinetolust]

So, I read this article on MSN the other day, entitled "What her costume says about her." It was this cheesy sort of "let's throw together something for our deadline" type of article, where they named a few costumes, got a regular guy to say something about it, then an "expert" conjectured what it meant.

Comments

[dawning_star]

I personally don't think a woman's clothing can designate her as a slut or not. Culturally, however, we're generally conditioned to think such things.

That picture makes me wish I had the body to pull that look off. She looks damned good. Make any sense?

[clockwerkdragon]

I have to agree with the above statement. What you wear sets up a perception in the minds of those around you. I would think "slut" too...mainly because that is a adult* costume...like behind closed doors style

[shrinetolust]

Of course someone dressing sexy is meant to draw attention--but does it follow that it must have a negative attention? When I see the guy at the faire I think "Yum!" not "Slut!"

And in your comments about cheater girls, are you referring to sexy costumes in general or just extreme porno costumes? Obviously anything requiring a Brazilian wax is pushing the envelope...heh... But I mean, I'd think that a guy who thinks his girlfiend will drop her pants the moment she has a few drinks--well, I would be more likely to call *him* insecure than her.

It's always an interesting thing, and I'm sure some girls are as guilty as guys are, but it's a particularly guy thing--they like looking at girls who dress that way, are willing to take advantage of it, but want their own girlfriends to save it all for them.

I think it really boils down to the appropriateness of the occasion and the *behavior* of the person, not just how they're dressed. I dislike the notion that once a girl is with someone, she's no longer allowed to be/feel attractive and

[clockwerkdragon]

I'm referring to extremo costumes...(AKA 75% of the female costumes I've seen at the halloween store). Most of them are smack dab in brazilian wax land.

You can have an "aggressive" costume without going slutty...A corset and thigh highs aren't auto slutty....it all entirely depends on how easy it is to see the total package of goods. For our dark angel there, she's basically in the french maid fuck me dress with a pair of wings stuck on it.

I also agree that behavior is a the key. But the other item of note is yes, the man might be the one with the problem...and is it really fair to make your partner that uncomfortable? It's not a matter of saving it ALL for them...but you certainly would like a bit that's yours only in the visual department. Men, and I will comfortably make this sweeping statement, are far more vision based then women when it comes to sex. So the proof is in the viewing a lot of the time.

frankly...she looks scary

[anonymous]

I dont see that outfit as REMOTELY sexy, but then I am not a guy with a thing for fishnets and PVC footwear, and that wasnt the question anyway!
If you wear that, you are a confident person or a very shy one. Sort of like drinking.....because you like it or because you need false courage.
The rest is up to the wearer's behaviour.

women will always be stuck with the whore/madonna thing, thanks to ???Mary Magdalene??

Poule x

Re: frankly...she looks scary

[shrinetolust]

Hee...it is funny that the standard porny attire is so extreme, all those layers of make-up and hairspray and rubber clothing seems to make the prson untouchable instead of inviting...although I admit to thinking fishnets are sexy. :P

That's interesting what you say about false courage...I remember a friend and I once discovered that we would walk differently depending on what shoes we wore--other than the obvious of your gait changing because of heels or whatever. Sexy shoes turned into a sexy, more confident walk. So I can see that wearing something outrageous could make an ordinarily shy person "live up to" the costume. Actors often say that they don't get into the character until they start putting on that character's costume...

As far back as Mary Magdalene...gahh...that's a lot of history to overcome, I know. It's just so frustrating sometimes! *dons fishnets in defiance*

xxoo

[green_grrl]

Extroverted? Exhibitionist? Sex positive? Sure. Cheater -- oh please! As you say, 98% of the costumes out there for women are "sexy" costumes. 98% of the female population cheats on their SOs? Halloween is just an excuse to have a little more fun with your self-image than most of us do the other 364 days. If you wear "appropriate office attire" every day, why not flaunt what you've got the one day it's socially acceptable? Lord knows I'm not complaining at the guys stripping down to a cherub loincloth. ;-)

And agreed on the "appropriate place" thing!

[shrinetolust]

LOL...yeah, we're all just a bunch of cheaters! We've been found out!!

Lord knows I'm not complaining at the guys stripping down to a cherub loincloth. ;-)

Whoot! No complaints here, either!! Although sadly such costumes are much more rare than the sexy female ones...*sniff*

That's a good point about it being the one day to really go crazy...I think women can be allowed one day!! *hikes skirt up*

[imoonie]

You know, truthfully I think there's nothing wrong with being sexy and dressing that way, especially on Halloween, when we're supposed to get away with that sort of thing. But the term "getting away with it" implies that it should be frowned upon unless it's for Halloween, which I don't agree with.

I do think you're absolutely right that what you wear should be appropriate to your situation. If you're taking your toddler trick or treating, a prostitute seems way wrong, but the same costume at an all-adult party might be fun or cute.

It's alllll about context.

But I still hate our misogynistic society. :(

[shrinetolust]

Context, definitely. I'm still conservative enough where I feel everything has a time and place where it's appropriate (or not appropriate). But you're right, Halloween shouldn't be the only day where we can be slutty...heh.

Like I say, I think it's all about intent and behavior, too. If a girl is confident and sexy and wants to portray that in her dress, that's fine. But if she's flirting with every guy that walks buy and ignoring her s.o. completely and making him look like a fool--*then* that's an issue. But that would be an issue no matter what she was wearing, right?

I definitely think when children's trick-or-treating is involved it's best to use discretion. Personally I felt uncomfortable in the *store* wher a lot of these costumes were because the kids were running all over and could see all this risque stuff (for men and women).

I wonder if we'll ever get past the whole misogyny thing? Certainly things have gotten a lot better at least in this part of the world, but there's still a long way to go I think.

[stewardess]

I don't find that costume particularly revealing. It shows less than your average mini-skirt/tube top combo. The only thing that makes it unusual are the fetish shoes. Substitute a regular pair of black high-heeled ankle boots, and it's quite tame.

If I wore something like that, and my date criticized me for dressing too slutty, I'd dump him. But first I'd show up for dinner at his parents wearing only a thong. *g*

[shrinetolust]

I agree...I think the pictured outfit is fairly tame as well! The idea of it is porny, but as far as being revealing, it isn't.

But first I'd show up for dinner at his parents wearing only a thong. *g*

LOL...as would be your right! I have always been so resentful of that whole thing where guys totally go after women who are dressed provocatively--then as soon as they are dating them they expect the woman to cover up. It once again becomes like an ownership thing--"your cleavage is mine now; I don't want you showing it to anyone else!"

I know there are extreme situations and I feel there are appropriate times and places for certain types of dress...but if some dude is going to be threatened and/or dump a chick for wearing a sexy costume on Halloween? *kicks dude very hard with my porny platform shoes*

[stewardess]

Of course, my viewpoint may be skewed. For one Halloween, I was a Size Queen. I had a crown and a suitably poofy dress. I carried a yardstick as my scepter. The outfit was so successful [*cough*] that I wore it to three parties over a period of three days. At the last party, I lost my shoes, and decided it was time to retire.

[shrinetolust]

LOL...I think where you live peeps are far more open to these types of costumes...hee...

What an ingenious way to meet the best men!

Didn't a prince show up later with your shoes on a satin pillow? :)