Comments | shaynabelle: So alive

shaynabelle

So alive

Jul 23, 2008 15:46

( grump. )

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merilaine July 23 2008, 21:02:22 UTC

I hope you feel better soon. I send good thoughts your way :). You're in the home stretch on the pregnancy!

shaynabelle July 27 2008, 16:51:27 UTC

Thank you, M! It is indeed the home stretch... craziness!

sheilagh July 23 2008, 21:16:35 UTC

*hugs you*

missingwatch July 24 2008, 14:01:34 UTC

have you tried asking ali politely? i really think guys don't see things the same way, stuff like empty glasses have to be pointed out.

sorry your dad is taking his temper out on you : /

shaynabelle July 27 2008, 16:40:14 UTC

Yeah, when I ask him he really does put it effort and do whatever i've asked. It's just, sometimes it'd be SO nice to have the trash taken out without having to ask first, yah know? If he just saw it overflowing and acted on it.... Maybe I ask too much!! ;)

missingwatch July 27 2008, 18:42:23 UTC

that's what chore schedules are for!

domesticdivadi July 25 2008, 00:44:19 UTC

Re: I am not 100% (or rather, I'm not as I used to be. The pregnancy keeps me from doing things) and so my house is falling apart. I can't clean or cook or shop like I used to and Ali seems unable to see that it needs to be done. So the dirt piles up, the fridge empties out, and I become bitter.
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Now is the time to get used to this situation and work through those feelings. Talk about it with Ali. Talk about it with yourself. And settle in to being ok with it now. Because I can assure you, this exact situation will only worsen when the baby arrives. He needs to know how you feel, but you also need to be ok with things falling apart a bit more than they used to. Babies don't care if the fridge needs cleaning. :)

shaynabelle July 27 2008, 16:41:41 UTC

I'd never thought of that, somehow, that once the baby gets here I'll really need to have my cleanliness expectations dropped. Ali and I have talked about this a bit lately and I hope some natural and acceptable-to-both arrangement will arise. compromise....

domesticdivadi July 25 2008, 00:45:54 UTC

And let me add - I don't want to depress you, but this lack of sleep is nature's cruel joke. Just when you need all the rest you can get... just when you need to enjoy uninterrupted nights for the last time for a while... that's when your body stops sleeping well. Maybe it's preparing you for the sleep deprivation associated with a new baby. Maybe God is laughing at us. But I don't know anyone who regularly slept really well at the end of their pregnancy.

shaynabelle July 27 2008, 16:43:26 UTC

I KNOW! Of ALL the times to be sleep deprived to the point of insanity, why does nature pick NOW?! I should be stockin up on sleep! but you're right, maybe we're just being taught early that sleep is not as necessary as we thought..