I don't feel Adorable.

[shawnaree]

I don't really feel adorable anymore

Comments

[missdotti]

I know that any amount of your friends commenting that you're both adorable and intelligent won't fix your internal issues at all.

HOWEVER!

I added you as a friend on my livejournal because of your intelligence, NOT because your userpic was really cute. You already know that I find you completely and utterly adorable.

So it's entirely possible to exist as both in my mind.

[shawnaree]

It's not necessarily that this post was about getting the people on my friends list to tell me that I'm smart or that I'm smart and adorable, or that I'm adorable, or some sort of "hot or not" type poll... because I understand that, as you say, it would do nothing as far as the issues that are making me feel the way I feel now.

But I also want to talk about why I feel uncomfortable, and where my perception of myself comes from.

I guess this is what growing up is like?

ALSO!

Thank you for the compliment. It's good to know I say something worthwhile every once in a while. *smiles*

[missdotti]

It's not necessarily that this post was about getting the people on my friends list to tell me that I'm smart or that I'm smart and adorable,

Exactly! You don't strike me as the type of person who fishes for compliments like that.

I suppose, yes, part of "growing up" is stepping back and evaluating your self-image now and then.

Most of us spend our entire lives trying to learn so many new things, but few us of try to focus that learning upon ourselves. There's so much to learn when we simply look into the mirror, so to speak.

[embeth]

Hey, coming from the other end of the spectrum (someone who is apparently both intimidating AND someone you don't want to fuck with), don't knock it!

Or maybe trade me for a little while.

[shawnaree]

Oh, I think I know that feeling. When I was perceived as a woman, I often got told that I was a little intimidating and unapproachable. That's sort of changed, of late.

[lilacfaeryboy]

I know how you feel. Everyone calls me 'cute' and occasionally I wish I could be smoky, sexy and dark instead!

And yeah, it does make me feel like my opinions are being invalidated sometimes, and it can be frustrating.

I have no suggestions, only sympathy. Should I come up with some, I will let you know!

[peaceofpie]

oooh i get it.
definitely get it.
don't know how to explain the getting of it, but i get it.

i call people adorable instinctively, because to me it just kinda means "i love you", but expresses the "i love you" feeling as "i love you because of some undefinable quality about you that is inherently loveable" and as an adjective describing the person i love instead of as a verb describing the action of "loving" them. AND, i often have a similar reaction when people call ME adorable and i assume they mean it like "cute" instead of (or more so than) "adore...able".

[anemptymind]

I don't think so, Shawn. I mean, I guess you're adorable, but if anyone were to ask me to label you, I would quickly reply that you're a "devil's advocate."

Any better?

I love you, dude. I miss you.