Comments | shadowpryde: Poly, permanence and the universe as it rolls around

shadowpryde

Poly, permanence and the universe as it rolls around

Feb 17, 2006 12:50

It's interesting. Earlier today I was filling out a survey for a fanfic study that I'll be involved in. Amongst the other details requested was that of defining the sort of relationship I'm in through the course of several questions. I came to the question that was 'are you in a polyamorous relationship and please clarify in the form of MMF, MFF ( Read more... )

poly, meanderings

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bodgei February 18 2006, 16:30:24 UTC

I was basicly going to say the same thing as aries dreamer, but honisly I don't have that much experinace with Poly. Everytime I tryed to have two stable relationships it's ended up in a siral monogamy thing.

I had a dream about you last night. You me NI an Brittny - some place warm, playing Qudditch - wihtout mud... does that help with where whatever happens after Luminose sould be?

iamcompubear February 18 2006, 17:10:39 UTC

I hope with all my heart that this is true. However, the world has a nasty way of throwing in curve balls.

pirate_fae February 20 2006, 20:04:01 UTC

There is definately a history of impermanence associated with Poly relationships. I believe that is because they are *hard*. The more people one adds into a relationship, the more complex things become. I also think that, just as in dual-partner relationships, many folks aren't willing to do the work to make a relationship happen and with more than one parner that makes the breaking point come along sooner ( ... )

obsidianic February 21 2006, 02:18:04 UTC

I am sure there are successful polys; just as certain that many trying for that stability fail for any number of reasons. Finding one person to honestly work with on a true relationship at your own level is difficult enough, finding another who not only would work with you, but with the other you (or s/he) has selected is logarithmically more difficult. The short cut most take is the more jealous of the two becomes the permanent member, and subsequent selections are made less permanent (subsconsciously) so as to not threaten them.

Multiple consenting concurrent congruent romantic relationships... mtfierce February 22 2006, 03:41:40 UTC

...Yeah. All that and a bowl of chickens.

Erm.