Poly, permanence and the universe as it rolls around

[shadowpryde]

It's interesting. Earlier today I was filling out a survey for a fanfic study that I'll be involved in. Amongst the other details requested was that of defining the sort of relationship I'm in through the course of several questions. I came to the question that was 'are you in a polyamorous relationship and please clarify in the form of MMF, MFF

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[teal_cuttlefish]

Our permanent family is a Vee, with my legal husband on one side and the pseudo spouse on the other. We're all in it for the long haul -- and the shorter relationship has lasted at least two years longer than my first marriage. PS and I have been together almost 9 years. Hub unit and I are coming up on our 14th anniversary, and were together for two years before we married. At least in our case, the V is stable. Husband dates occasionally; usually friends that can go up and down the scale. PS has a friend that I call his "second wife," but it is a close friendship rather than a relationship, and he isn't particularly poly; it was just the only deal he could reach that included me in it

[satnsdau]

Ok, thoughts aside for a moment, Dishes anyone?

Hun, I've seen you in action. You are one of the most generous people that I know. You will make an effort to include any new person, that appears not to be on the full freakish side in anything, that you are doing.

I have seen that this has been the start of a long walk down a road to friendship, for that new individual and yourself. Most of the time that walk goes all the way to completion, sometimes it does not.

When you are able to see the friendship lasting, that's when you start seeing that this would be able to do different things. And maybe move the friendship to a higher level.

Well that's my two cents.

Ok, watch the feet next time I'm over. {grins evilly}

still here

[alias_treefrog]

"are there others like me that have almost always sought out a sense of permanence with their other partners"

World of DUH!

Love you,
-E

[meredyth_13]

Hey, sweetie. I'm so glad you shared this - and I'm seriously looking forward to meeting you, and hopefully part of this wonderful list of people who make up your life.

*hugs*

mere

Poly VS Swinger

[aries_dreamer]

I can see why you would be offended; I think part of it is probobly just frustration and hurt in not being understood.
There are people out there in a main relationship who go outside of that on a regular basis, with a lot of parties and one night stand kinds of things. I would say those people are "swingers" not Poly. There is a huge difference between the two but I think a vast majority of people currently do not understand the difference or are just not aware of it.
Maybe you can enlighten them. :) I thought I rembered you once talking about writing a book on the subject, that seems like a good idea.