Regret and hope

[sethisalive]

A super amazing pal very-wisely told me that what I need to do to move on from this pseudo-relationship-mess that happened on and off for the last four years is to come to a point where I don't regret anything from the past.

No more "if only"s, no more "but if"s, no more justifying what he did or I did, no more wishing I would've or he could've or

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Re: Nicely put, Mr. Man

[sethisalive]

Nicko! I could never be sick of hearing about any pain you're going through or have gone through! Not scrolling past anything! And yes, I agree there is profound commonality. But, I think you shouldn't be hard on yourself for leaving the situation you found yourself in. What you did was necessary, the way things are now are necessary. You can only take so much pain before taking on that pain goes from "noble" to "unwise" in the sense that you harm yourself so much that you can't actually fix or give love to the situation you're in that's causing you harm. And if you harm yourself to a sufficient degree, then you can't even give love to others. At that point it's not only "unwise" but "selfish" to stay in that situation. It's selfish not to be able to give love to others, to contribute to the world (I'm sure it affected your studies and would have more had you let it continue), etc

Re: Nicely put, Mr. Man

[eclectic_loner]

I have never been in an abusive or controlling relationship, so I guess that it can be difficult for me to completely fathom the situation. I thought I would make some clarifications/paraphrasing of the situation, though

Re: Nicely put, Mr. Man

[sethisalive]

Before I read/respond, I meant to make sure that you knew that "A super amazing pal very-wisely told me" was referring to you, Jonny P. I meant to thank you. So, thank you!!! So much. Seriously. It really helped to talk to you the other night, P-diddy.