Its not that that I'm really doing that now. Well, thats a damn lie. I meant, it kinda feels that way right now. I'm wondering "Do I want this other one as a replacement or out of genuine desire?"
That's what is making me feel torn. That and again the "Can we really afford to?" I think I will wait another six months that way I can really gauge my feelings. That's if I can! lol.. Hubby and I have been rather amorous as of late * turns red * But we are using appropriate protection.
I just hope that things get better around here and I have an extra job. Not to mention getting Dylan out of diapers.
I forgot to say, yes, I don't want to been seen as irresponsible in raising another child on what amounts to a pittance.
Hell, my mother in law actually had the balls to tell me I should get my tubes tied after Daniel was supposed to be born. I nearly had a heart attack when she said that. Granted she was concerned because of the jobless state we both were in but, I think that went over her boundaries.
That's a horribly insensitive thing to say...And I had my first mother in law ask that after my first baby was born. Yeah, it was a complicated pregnancy, but WTF? No one who knew me would ever entertain that thought for a second. I was flabbergasted. My mother didn't want me to have any more either. Guess the pregnancy scared them. I told her I myself really wasn't in much danger at all, it was always the baby who was in more danger. Gads...
No. Don't get your tubes tied if you have any doubt at all. I had an older best friend when I was a teen/early twenties. Her first marriage went kaput and he got the kids. She remarried and had trouble even getting to visit them and couldn't have anymore with her new husband. She was devastated.
It was. And I was just as flabbergasted..Granted I knew the reasons behind it, no more surprise pregnancies, cause of our situation last year. We were both jobless and no prospects on the horizon. But yeah, she shouldn't have said that at all. Appreciate the concern, but didn't have to say that. We had been using luck as protection last year...Long story, I don't want to get into here.. ^^;;;;;
It still irks me today that she said something like that. Gods, I don't want to know her reaction if I told her about this. Not that I'd care or anything, just don't want to have to deal with the sly comments "How can you afford another when your barely making ends meet now?" Again the concern is appreciated but I don't love it when it enters into nearly every conversation. It doesn't really, but it feels like it, nor do I like the looks I get. The look that says "Your gonna drown in debt forever" type look. * sighs *
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That's what is making me feel torn. That and again the "Can we really afford to?" I think I will wait another six months that way I can really gauge my feelings. That's if I can! lol.. Hubby and I have been rather amorous as of late * turns red * But we are using appropriate protection.
I just hope that things get better around here and I have an extra job. Not to mention getting Dylan out of diapers.
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Hell, my mother in law actually had the balls to tell me I should get my tubes tied after Daniel was supposed to be born. I nearly had a heart attack when she said that. Granted she was concerned because of the jobless state we both were in but, I think that went over her boundaries.
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No. Don't get your tubes tied if you have any doubt at all. I had an older best friend when I was a teen/early twenties. Her first marriage went kaput and he got the kids. She remarried and had trouble even getting to visit them and couldn't have anymore with her new husband. She was devastated.
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It still irks me today that she said something like that. Gods, I don't want to know her reaction if I told her about this. Not that I'd care or anything, just don't want to have to deal with the sly comments "How can you afford another when your barely making ends meet now?" Again the concern is appreciated but I don't love it when it enters into nearly every conversation. It doesn't really, but it feels like it, nor do I like the looks I get. The look that says "Your gonna drown in debt forever" type look. * sighs *
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