*annoyed*

[seryan]

Look, it's the 21st century. Has been for a nice chunk of time now.

Can you please address generic questions about purchases to both of us when you have them, instead of to just my husband? Especially when I'm standing in front of you, and he's three feet to the side. Doing something else.

JFC. >:(

Comments

[calibrata]

I sympathize. I've had the cashier at a fast food restaurant ask my husband what I would like to drink when we're both standing right there. People are ...dumb.

[seryan]

I've had that happen too. *twitch* Steve won major husband points for saying "I don't know, ask her".

[wrongly_amused]

That's the point where I say, "Excuse me, but I'm the one purchasing this item. My husband is not involved. Your questions need to be directed at me."

Unfortunately, it's not always a conscious sexism. Bringing it to their attention might make them recognize the tendency for the first time.

[seryan]

I looked...unimpressed. And got a sort-of-not-really apology of "Sorry, I asked him because I figured he'd be the one lifting them." before I could actually say anything.(It was our grocery order. If it'd been an open question it wouldn't have bothered me.) Though in the past I have canceled purchases over crap like this - I'm not good enough for you to talk to? Guess my money isn't good enough for you either.

Unfortunately not. *sigh* I did point out that we both carry them into the house. I'd like to think that'll stick with them, but...

[wrongly_amused]

At least you didn't just let it slide. I hate it when I see women try to do the polite thing, even at their own expense and embarassment. I understand not wanting to have to deal with it in the first place, but. No. Fuck that shit.

[seryan]

Exactly, fuck that shit. Besides, hopefully any time I call someone on their bullshit it means someone else will have to deal with less. *sigh* I could handle it so much better if I had any hope I was the last generation to have to put up with it. But I know I'm not.

[horsetechie]

Just from the other side, we actually have had customers in our office that did not want their husband (or wife) to know the cost of their purchases. Or that one spouse is fully in charge of the money and other is not (so medival, but true).

Like say, just today we had a woman who had spoken to us over the phone about if she had any balance due and if she could pay it installments. But when she was in the store with her husband in earshot, she openly said that balance was all paid up and she didn't owe anything more. That was really rather confusing until we decided it was a control thing with her husband being around. She was actually planning on making the payments in secret apart from his knowledge. *tsk*

[seryan]

This was clearly a mutual purchase (groceries), though. We were both there, and I was standing right in front of the cashier. There was no reason to ignore me.

[horsetechie]

It could have been worse... what if by chance you two were not a couple and he had assumed you two were? ^^;

Just to be safe, I have tried to address each person if they had been helped in the event they are not in connection with the other person they followed into the store.

[seryan]

I think it was pretty clear to her that the chatting couple with the matching rings were together. ^_^