Comments | sayvandalay: Panic! At the Schoolyard

sayvandalay

Panic! At the Schoolyard

Feb 17, 2010 10:57

First, before I even start this entry, which is probably going to be all over the place, I'd just like to say this:

Thank you, Mom, from the bottom of my heart and the depths of my soul and the roots of my hair (color: undisclosed) for being what I can ONLY NOW fully come to recognize as extremely strong, utterly selfless, and totally empathetic ( Read more... )

aiden

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solteronita February 17 2010, 17:11:48 UTC

I think there are way too many factors to know what exactly causes anxiety. But being empathetic is probably the best thing you can do. Your response sounds like it was completely loving and timely. I wish my parents had done something like you did today! Just knowing that it's a problem he can get through with some help and practicing is a good start.

I do think anxiety is incredibly common. I had anxiety that made me physically ill and not want to go to school (and I seriously LOVED school) to the point of crying at the thought in first grade and then an even more severe bout in fourth grade. Even today I can't pinpoint what caused it, but I, too, learned to deal with anxiety, and I didn't even have the emotional support you're showing Aiden!

sayvandalay February 17 2010, 20:06:24 UTC

Well, my response wasn't ENTIRELY loving. I did get frustrated a time or two, but I think overall I did ok.

Aiden LOVES school too. In fact, on the way out of the school parking lot, he started to cry even harder, saying "But the saddest thing is, I DON'T WANT TO BE LATE FOR SCHOOL!"

Sigh.

craigdelli February 17 2010, 17:21:57 UTC

Wow, I had no idea Aiden was going through this. Please keep me informed. Hopefully if he makes it through the day in school, that will be a really good sign.

nutmeg February 17 2010, 18:02:31 UTC

Genetic, genetic, genetic.

You did a great job, mommy. I wouldn't have known what to do, and I'm so impressed with how you handled it.

Every day it's a struggle to get Eli to go to Daycare. He likes his teachers, and more or less likes the kids in his class, but as we approach the building he tells me he is shy and he doesn't want to go. As we walk into the building he talks about how he is shy, over and over and over again. I don't know how this is going to progress but I'm concerned about how to support him and not make it worse.

sayvandalay February 18 2010, 01:39:19 UTC

I have been doing some reading today, and some of it does suggest that there could be a genetic predisposition, so I guess Aiden is kind of screwed because both of his parents are anxious people!

However, hopefully with the right interventions now, he can retrain his thinking before he gets too comfortable with it.

timeout5 February 17 2010, 19:57:51 UTC

I think the fact that you are being proactive is key. You have recognized the signs and have taken steps already to help him work thru it. I think too often anxiety is viewed as something to just get over, but then the person experiencing the anxiety is never taught how to deal properly with it, so then it goes into a life long battle of barely living from one anxiety attack ( ... )

sayvandalay February 17 2010, 20:00:43 UTC

You just made me cry, dammit!

Thanks. :)

Interesting info I found sayvandalay February 17 2010, 20:30:06 UTC

Been doing a little reading today. Found this ( ... )